• ShaunaTheDead@kbin.social
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      I don’t think it has to do with being female or anime. I think OP is saying that they’re either a transgender woman or a femboy who is still in the closet

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        Huh. Then I still don’t really get neither the title nor the image. 😅 Trying to grasp it…

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          They are probably not out, so cannot present feminime to others yet. As an alternative, they present fem at home alone, here indicated by the transformation. “It’s a vibe” could refer to presenting fem being their preferred state.

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            Sounds reasonable. Thanks for explaining! OP seems to just want to be difficult for no reason lol.

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                If you don’t understand what I mean by “what does this post mean to you, having posted it”, then I don’t think you can help me. 😅 You just randomly click on any image and post it and justify it by “it’s just a shitpost”? If so, that’s even helpful. But you’re giving me zilch here. Take care.

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                  I don’t think I’m the one who’s being unreasonable here lmao. The meme is a vibe. That’s it. That being said, not all posts have to click with everyone. Some people obviously enjoyed it. Have a good one.

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                    Ok, I was mainly with ya, but ya lost me. If “it’s a vibe”, what is the vibe? And why is there a vibe? Is basically what he was asking. He does have somewhat of a point, you didn’t just Google random words grab the first pic you saw and posted, obviously you liked the image and felt some sort of connection to it.

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            You seem like you’re getting offended.

            I’m just trying to understand how to relate to the post in any way. I just don’t understand how. I’d like to understand what your thoughts are while posting this. That’s all. 🤷‍♂️ I don’t mean any harm.

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              I’m defintely not offended in any way, shape or form. Sometimes things just happen, y’know?

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                The problem isn’t that they’re asking a question! I do not think it’s wrong to want to understand things. In this case however the meaning is what it says on the tin. I’m not trying to be coy or disrespectful to those who ask questions.

                It’s a vibe, some people will feel it and others won’t. Do not be afraid of asking questions. I’m just personally vibing with the picture. I’m a cis straight man who thinks “dressing as a pink rabbit girl in your home” is relatable. Not because I do it, mind you. I do not think dressing as a bunny in your home is even a queer behavior necessarily, though it can be to other humans.

                I honestly believe I gave the asker as close to a personal answer to their question as I could by not outright saying anything. Because I do not have any other relation to this picture than I found it and vibes with it. Doesn’t need to be any more than that. Labels are just things we put on ourselves. Humans are quirky and unique as individuals. Nothing more to it.

                Genuinely, sincerely, I vibed with the picture and reposted it because I assumed others would to. In the way I did, or in some other way. It’s a shitpost and doesn’t mean anything more to me.

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              From what I can tell it’s possible that the OP may have some trauma or at the very least past negative experiences with egg culture. I can neither confirm nor deny this though as I’m not the OP, I am basing it off my own negative experiences with egg culture.

              For those not in the know egg culture is the phenomenon around Egg_irl, it’s the idea that people are transgender without knowing it, or are in denial. The problematic part is that it also targets people who are Gender Non-Conforming (GNC) because it heavily utilizes gender stereotypes.

              If that is the case they might have a completely valid reason for why they posted it or are vibing with it and are not sharing it because they feel like people are going to call them an egg or harass them again, but they wanted to share it because they thought other people might enjoy it.

              Here’s a sample of what Egg culture harassment looks like by the way, just to give an idea for people who haven’t experienced it (count yourselves lucky), fair warning, it’s unpleasant.

              Toxic Egg culture, Enbyphobia, probably is harassment.

              “I’m saying you’re an Egg because you seem to have an interest in dressing as something other than your AGAB, you’re obviously not Cisgender. People can be either Male or Female and you’re clearly not male, because males don’t enjoy things like that if you keep lying to yourself you’ll never be happy”

              I could understand why the op might be a bit more on edge then they otherwise would be if they experienced egging like this.

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                  I think mostly it’s the idea that people* who break gender stereotypes (or are thought to break gender stereotypes) are trans, I don’t think it necessarily implies that everyone is trans, I’ve seen people who claim that and act like it but for the most part it’s based on lack of adherence to gender stereotypes.

                  (*Most of the times this doesn’t include women who dress in a masculine way, tomboys getting egged definitely does happen, but it’s not as common since women dressing masc has been established as a normal thing.)

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                    I find the whole thing insane. It basically ignores the fact that behavior is fluid. Traits are individual and fluid. Humor is fluid. Everything about our behavior is fluid. You can be “camp af” and still be straight, and “butch af” and still be gay. And that’s just scratching the surface.