• funkless_eck@sh.itjust.works
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    11 months ago

    if you love what you do…

    for me the greater challenge is that so many kinksters are actually very tedious people who really want to tell you about their sex lives in lieu of an actual conversation

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      11 months ago

      A friend of a friend once talked me into going to a munch, where some scenes were going to be done. I’m interested in seeing new things and try to be open to having my horizons broadened, so I figured why not?

      I have to say, not only did I find it intensely boring, it was also about as much of a turn-off as I can imagine any in-person experience being.

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          Yeah, munch is basically kink recess. It’s a get together for the community that is almost explicitly non-sexual, just because it’s good and useful to have some time set aside for that.

          Now, to be completely honest, I’ve never seen the appeal. I’m not in the scene to talk about the scene. But I appreciate the benefits of them for people that want that social aspect.

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          11 months ago

          I’m aware of that now, but at the time didn’t know anything about it … it was being done in a community space where there was a bar and plenty of space for activities.

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        11 months ago

        Yeah, I can’t imagine doing a munch where there’s scenes involved, that just seems weird, but the ones I’ve been to just serve as like lunch with some like minded people who just happen to be talking about cock and ball torture in an iHop

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      11 months ago

      Yeah, I’ve encountered this. Not everyone in a community is a tedious, kink-obsessed person, but they will be the ones there the most, and it feels like the only thing they actually care about sometimes.

      I’m not shaming them, enjoy what you enjoy, but I feel the same about them as I feel about people who make weed a cornerstone of their personality.

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      Because being a kinkster is a hobby. It’s different to how society treats sex.