It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.
I actually don’t mind being a weirdo who doesn’t get dates, but I don’t understand why people keep falling for this hyper specific personality archetype that’s got making girls swoon over them down to a science.
100% I have interests that probably don’t align with yours, but at least I’m not lying to you until you’re on the hook then calling you a bitch about it 🤷
No one has ever lied to me to get me on the hook and then called me anything about it. I don’t know who the people are who fall for this, but it’s not an issue in my circles.
Most of my exes have been weirdos, and I am a bit of a weirdo. It’s still a red flag to have absolutely no social media presence, and it means I can’t send links to your pages with screen shots of you to my sister before our date in case I get murdered.
As someone whose only “social media” is Lemmy, I’d be 100% fine meeting in public places or with people you trust. But I’m not going to sell my personal information for a date.
It’s about safety for me. Going on a date with someone is such a gamble. If they have zero social media presence, that’s outside of what’s normal. Anything outside of normal social expectations is a safety red flag to me, because you immediately become less predictable to me. I don’t want to be alone with someone I don’t really know who is unpredictable. I’m just trying not to get murdered.
Yeah I guess well socially adjusted people never turn out to be murderers, rapists or abusers of any kind /s
I actually don’t mind being a weirdo who doesn’t get dates, but I don’t understand why people keep falling for this hyper specific personality archetype that’s got making girls swoon over them down to a science.
100% I have interests that probably don’t align with yours, but at least I’m not lying to you until you’re on the hook then calling you a bitch about it 🤷
No one has ever lied to me to get me on the hook and then called me anything about it. I don’t know who the people are who fall for this, but it’s not an issue in my circles.
Most of my exes have been weirdos, and I am a bit of a weirdo. It’s still a red flag to have absolutely no social media presence, and it means I can’t send links to your pages with screen shots of you to my sister before our date in case I get murdered.
As someone whose only “social media” is Lemmy, I’d be 100% fine meeting in public places or with people you trust. But I’m not going to sell my personal information for a date.
I suppose. Handing over your entire life and information to a corporation and making most of it available to the world should be the larger red flag.