I’ll start: if they have hobbies it’s a green flag for sure, doubly so if their hobbies are outlets for creativity.

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    1. The person says “I don’t know” fairly often. It shows that the person is not quick to draw conclusions, based on little to no information; this is gold, it means avoiding a lot of personal drama where they could blame you for things that they assume that you did.

    2. They’re generally on the same page about common acquaintances as you.

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      “Hey hon, what do you want for dinner?”

      I don’t know.

      “Well, should we go out or cook?”

      I don’t know.

      “Did you know you’re annoying as fuck?”

      I don’t know.

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        That’s different. I’m talking about avoiding to rush towards certainty, not lack of opinion/preference.

        That said, “I don’t know… it’s too late to buy groceries, but we got a frozen lasagna, there are some vegs in the fridge, and I could whip some fried chicken if you want. What do you want?” sounds perfect for me. So the issue here isn’t the “I don’t know”, it’s the lack of input.

        [Dunno if you were speaking seriously or joking. If joking, sorry for the serious answer.]