Even with a good career and all the “adult milestones” I don’t feel like an actual adult. I feel like I’m pretending to know what I’m doing. Anyone else experience this?

  • Kit
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    1 year ago

    I sort of feel like an adult, in that I have a job I care about, a mortgage, a partner, responsibilities. I think the change happened when I lost my entire safety net when my parents passed away. If I don’t take care of myself, it’s right back to the streets. That kind of looming danger makes a person feel “grown up” pretty quick.

    But at the same time, I don’t feel adult enough to want to start a family or have any optional responsibilities. I just get through the grind to feel stable and play videogames, which is probably a childish mindset.

    Mid 30s for reference.