Rule #2 is possibly our most important one:

Be respectful. Everyone should feel welcome here.

Learn to disagree without being rude or disrespectful.

It can be difficult sometimes, since western social media thrives on collective outrage, and they knowingly ingrain this into us for years. But please do adhere to this rule, and it will make this place much more enjoyable.

We will not hesitate to issue temp bans (usually a day or two) for those who make everyone’s experience unpleasant.Hit the report button if you see this behavior.

Thanks!

  • BrooklynMan@lemmy.mlEnglish
    17·
    1 year ago

    I’ve encountered some people who are not so… respectful with disagreements. I’ve made use of the report feature, however, it doesn’t seem to be of much use.

          • BrooklynMan@lemmy.mlEnglish
            7·
            1 year ago

            well, since you’re going to be disrespectful to me by setting an hilariously outrageous and arbitrary standard and then use that to insinuate that I’m actually the one who has done something wrong, I’m just going to assume you’re a troll.

            strange place to come and do that

            • ImOnADiet [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
              16·
              1 year ago

              what? why are you reacting like this I just said that you escalated the tensions yourself? Ironically this is exactly what I meant

              • BrooklynMan@lemmy.mlEnglish
                3·
                1 year ago

                you’ve clearly come here to antagonize me by accusing me of something preposterous: using the word “buddy”-- a word which means companion, friend. is English, maybe, not your first language?

                you’e the one making false accusations, and now, again. you’re clearly a troll.

                • ImOnADiet [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                  18·
                  1 year ago

                  calling people buddy, when you don’t know them, is passive aggressive to most people. And thanks for taking literally the worst faith interpretation possible, I just looked into this thread and saw you commented and remember reading through the argument you and Yog had.

            • ImOnADiet [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
              21·
              1 year ago

              it’s not “offensive” it’s disrespectful to be overly familiar with people like that. Calling someone I know buddy is very different from starting out an argument with buddy with an online stranger, it portrays a tone of disdain

                • amberSuperMario@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                  15·
                  1 year ago

                  What do you gain from behaving this way? I understand it’s easy to get heated online but you’re just plainly trying to get under someone’s skin for no reason. Maybe you genuinely disagree that calling a stranger “buddy” right at the start of a disagreement is disrespectful, but you’re literally just responding derisively to someone in a way that you know they find disrespectful, underneath a post specifically telling you to be respectful in disagreements.

                  Also, personally I think it’s strange to question someone else’s understanding of English in regards to calling a stranger “buddy” in a disagreement, seeing as I think most English speakers would understand the passive aggressive attitude of such a thing easily.

                • bobs_guns@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                  11·
                  1 year ago

                  there’s a difference between being a bit rude and saying slurs at people, you know. they are both disrespectful though!

                  • DarraignTheSane@lemmy.mlEnglish
                    2·
                    1 year ago

                    And finally, you hit some truth. Yes, being disrespectful means different things to different people in different contexts and in different areas of the world. If someone turned to me in public and said “hey buddy can you pass me that thing”, I wouldn’t think twice about it. I’m guessing someone from Brooklyn (e.g. @BrooklynMan) likely calls people meets on the street buddy as a matter of course.

                    But go ahead, feel free to keep taking offense to anything you like. You’re not obligated to have a good reason.

                • ImOnADiet [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                  9·
                  1 year ago

                  I would find it offensive if someone called me a shithead, as well as disrespectful, while calling me buddy/bud is disrespectful but not offensive

                • ImOnADiet [he/him]@lemmygrad.mlEnglish
                  10·
                  1 year ago

                  I said you escalated tensions. I really do think that calling someone buddy is overly familiar, I guess I can’t speak for everyone but the argument really seemed to take a turn downhill when you called Yog buddy I don’t think it’s outlandish to say that escalated tensions. I really didn’t intend for it to come off as an “accusation” was just trying to give some pretty mild push back that you yourself were disrespectful in an argument. I think Yog probably should get a temp for like a day if you think I’m being unfair