• DavidGarcia@feddit.nl
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    1 year ago

    This made me realize, talking to people is like forcefully inserting you thoughts into their brain without their consent. People should just stop talking in general IMO.

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    1 year ago

    I also dislike the “hey how are you?”. I understand they want to be friendly, but it only adds another step in the conversational exchange.

    “Hey how are you?”

    “I’m fine. You?”

    “All good”

    “Cool”

    “[the actual request]”

    • elvith@feddit.de
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      1 year ago

      I think it’s fine, if done with the nohello approach:

      Hey , how are you/had a nice weekend? I could use some help with ticket #12345 as I need to do … and don’t know how to do …

      But otherwise - yeah, you’re now right at the end of my to do list.

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      1 year ago

      Yes, this is exactly how it should be done. You’re leaving room for polite convo but also not needlessly adding a few extra steps in the chat

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      1 year ago

      Somebody message me something along those lines a few weeks ago.

      Them: Them can I as a question?

      Me: If you must

      Anyway, they complained to HR and they had a word with me. Stupid people. If you’re going to be an international company and put your IT department in the UK, prepare for snark.

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    1 year ago

    Well, I usually take my time to reply. It’s not my fault, when people then need to wait until they cut to the chase. That doesn’t bother me. It’s their problem.

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      1 year ago

      I have done this before.

      “Hi chunkystyles, good afternoon.”

      Sometimes I’ll wait for a few minutes to see if they follow up and then respond. Sometimes I just don’t respond until they cut to the chase if it’s not someone I talk to regularly.

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        1 year ago

        Minutes? It happens that I don’t respond for hours or sometimes even days. (Depending on how close we are.) :D

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    1 year ago

    When people at work have this as their status I just randomly say hello to them. When they get mad I tell them I just I wanted to say hi.

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      1 year ago

      I would tell her, but in a nice way.

      I feel like a lot of people map chat to talking on the phone when it isn’t. I’ve had to tell several staff to just get on with it and not wait for a response before getting into the reason why we are talking. Often times, they think they are being polite even though they are being rude

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      1 year ago

      I have one colleague who does it and they work in HR. No one else does that shit.

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    1 year ago

    Damn, talk about antisocial and weird.

    What if I just want to say hi to start a conversation, and I don’t have some ulterior motive? Or perhaps I’m waiting to gauge the other person’s mood or something else before asking them something?

    What a weird, weird thing for this person to get a stick up their arse about. I’m sure they’re really fun to talk to :-/

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      It’s a written message, not a conversation. State what you want clearly, don’t force other prople to ask you what you want.

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      1 year ago

      Yeah but it’s work isn’t it. It’s not bloody social setting.

      If you want to talk to me in a social way use the chat that is obviously for that purpose, you can tell because it’s full of gifs of the Office and Barbe and the manager isn’t in it.

      I probably won’t respond straight away because it’s on mute, I check it, but it’s on mute.

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    Last week:

    “Hi Neocamel, it’s Tom from work.”

    ~no follow-up message~

    Me, 15 minutes later: “Hi!”

    The end.