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    16 days ago

    I don’t know who needs to hear this, but:

    Do not take dating advice from people who never dated.

    Do not take relationship advice from people who never had a relationship.

    Do not take sex advice from people who never fucked.

    And especially do none of these things on 4chan.

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      Seriously, I have been in a relationship for a decade and a half and some of the relationship advice I have seen men give other men on the internet the past several years tells me that they have never been in stable relationships themselves.

      It also tells me that most of them have no clue what women want.

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        Quick video about what body type women think is attractive vs what men thought women think is attractive.

        Spoiler alert: Most men think they have to be ripped like a Marvel superhero while most women thought that shit looked scary and wanted the slightly toned body or the dad bod.

        Please don’t starve/dehydrate yourself, take steroids, and stay at the gym for 5 hours everyday. Exercise and be healthy because it’s good for you and that you love yourself. Be as normal as you can be. Take a shower, clean your room, do hobbies and activities, including outdoor ones.

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      A better way to say this is “don’t take dating advice from the Internet” because it’s not just 4chan where you’ll find shit designed to make you feel bad about yourself and how you look to try to sell you something- whether that’s a product or an ideology. It’s everywhere.

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      Only take the advice of people you want to end up like. It’s such a simple concept that so many people don’t heed

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    To every guy feeling a little self conscious about size, try putting something the same size as your penis inside you. It’ll feel a lot bigger after that.

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    Let’s put that super clear:

    There. Is. No. Good. Dick. Size.

    There are ladies that prefer 8 inches, and ladies that prefer 4.

    Some will not feel it deep enough, some others will say it hurts because it’s too deep.

    Just…make sure you and your partner find a way to make good use of whatever you’ve got. Select poses that will set you on the right depth, do magic with other sorts of penetrative and non-penetrative sex, and just listen to each other’s bodies.

    Also, to everyone who goes with “big dick = alpha” shit, you’re both wrong and make it hard to unfuck some guys’ minds on what makes them good for sex.

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    Aight, so whomever needs to hear this. The average vaginal canal is only about 3-4 inches long and might lengthen to about 5 inches if relaxed. Despite what bad porn anatomy might tell you it can hurt to go deeper than that. All of the nerve endings are clustered at the opening.

    The prostate is two inches deep. Virtually all the same mechanics apply.

    Your penis is fine.

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      This is the correct take. As someone well endowed, I get to either be real real careful and avoid a lot of positions, or date exclusively masochistic girls who want it to hurt. As a result, I have had the thought “I’m not sadistic enough for this girl” during sex before.

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        Yeah as a bottom with a large partner with delayed ejaculation I can say that while people seem to value length and stamina/lasting power in porn… the reality is there’s advantages to not accidentally knocking the absolute stuffing out of your partner and tiring them to the bone whenever you do the deed.

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          Yes please. I’m sorry guys, but it’s not a super power to “be able to keep going and going” without effort. That’s called desensitivity, and it’s troubling.

          I don’t like always having to be the one to decide when sex has to stop. I don’t like when every act ends because I’m getting sore. It makes me feel like a buzzkill. If you can’t sometimes stop yourself first, sex risks becoming a chore for your partner to endure, instead of a mutually-enjoyable act of bonding.

          YMMV, talking to your partner is better than assuming anything based off a Lemmy comment. This is just some food for thought.

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          And that’s the problem with being well endowed. It comes with its own problems and you can’t openly talk about it because someone always goes “Boo hoo you got a big dick, shut up”

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            It goes the same for women with big chests. I have to order my bras online and they’re expensive as shit, but according to some people out there, I’m not allowed to complain.

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              Yeah “well endowed” goes for both sides.

              There’s also back issues for breasts. Some women get reductions for it.

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          Yeah, how dare people with big dicks share their experiences! They can’t possibly have any issues worth complaining about. Thus, every time they reference themselves, they are inherently “bragging.”

          What childish nonsense.

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        Yeah. I actually do like big, occasionally. But also I like everyday sex, and with big guys you need some time between to heal & recover. This is NOT an advantage. Guys seem to think bigger is better, full stop. That’s just not true. More pleasure (if you are into that) with a hung guy, sure. But WAY more pleasure overall with more sex.

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    Fake: Anon has sex with a woman

    Gay: Anon started this whole thread just to get guys to talk about dicks.

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    All dicks are good dicks, just like all boobs are good boobs. Don’t let your dreams be dreams.

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    Remember having that boring conversation about size, and a girl in the group summed it up perfectly: “The most important thing is the guy it’s connected to”

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    To anyone feeling self-conscious about their dick: My wife’s best friend was with a guy for years who had a 3 inch dick, and he was overweight. From what I was told, she enjoyed sex with him quite a bit, it was the rest of the relationship that was awful.

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    Is that not an ideal size for most? It seems so. Don’t think anyone should say they are packing “only 5.5”, that’s at least average, maybe more. Preferences vary of course, but this seems a crowdpleaser size.

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    Isn’t the world average supposed to be like 4 or slightly under at ~100 mm. Donkey Kong’s are like wildly mutated freaks. Porn just needs them because a camera is in the way so diagonosexnastics is required.

    It’s a rather dumb plot hole IMO. I never met a drummer rocket scientist type. I’m sure they are out there somewhere, but pounding the cervix like a drum is a boring tune fit for an absentee-alpha brain. If that is what a person is interested in – ehh just consider me tiny to maybe make you feel a little better.

    If you feel self conscious, become a roadie (bicycle). Everyone says I won’t wear the clothes and we all learn the clothes have a solid purposeful reason to exist. A few years of solid riding and you will not give a fuck about how anyone thinks of your junk. If you want to look, go ahead you dirty slut. I don’t care if you look or that you are a slut.

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    I’ve met women who would tell you to get lose if you weren’t 8 inches. They were very much the minority of women I’ve met, and among them, very few would be women with whom I’d like to be associated.