My boyfriend does when my adhd is going to loud for him. I have become more quiet for him <3
Ever been to a library? They tell extroverts to be quiet
This is why libraries are one of my most favorite places. The truly shared space.
Because when someone is alone, they might start thinking for themselves. Dangerous shit right there for those lacking the honesty to make actually win-win kind of deals
I really felt this almost sense of justice when extroverts were forced to quarantine and were getting cabin fever after like 3 days.
Explaining to them that the discomfort they felt is what I felt every single day I had to go out into their world with all their eyes always looking at my face and making noises at me.
This is why I hate self described extroverts so much. They are often explaining all their bullying behaviour as ‘being extrovert’
Or worse: the diagnosed ADHD mixed with type A personality and excuse every hostile thing they do is because of the ADHD.
Essentially it always boils down to the poorly managed type A wearing different disguises.
end extrovert supremacy now!
Or when they demand the introvert start talking but they complain that s/he won’t shut up and talks too much.
“Hey, aren’t you into (special interest)? Tell us about that”
…
“No, not like that”
one of my favorite things is the meta text that calvin is imaginative and quick witted like his dad and empathetic and creative like his mother. he’s ultimately allowed the amount of leeway he’s given because at his core he’s a good kid and they’re proud of him, so they let him express himself
something tells me that calvin was insufferable in his twenties. i grew up with the same kind of “support”, and i learned that you only get told the truth when you aren’t cute any more.
As a introvert, I do.
I call their loudness out. Tell them to fucking chill.
You can be introverted AND direct.
Yeah, often people confuse “introvert” with “shy” and learn about “sarcasm”.
It’s for the same bullshit reason that any difference in preferred communication style is always won by the person who responds to an email or text with a phone call. Buddy, if I actually wanted to talk, I would’ve called. It’s not my fault you have the reading ability of a drunk 5 year old.
A life hack is that you don’t have to answer what I would perseive as an aggressive phone call. Stand you ground and keep the communication in you preferred way.
You’re not wrong at all, but when it happens at work telling them to stop is tricky depending on where they are in the hierarchy.
I always just ask people to email what they just said so it’s in writing, so it’s clear, and I have all the details, and it’s on my to do list. Make me look like I’m detail oriented, like I want to please them and do it exactly how they want.
I know, its hard. I’m dealing with a colleague like this higher in the org. Some are jerks, but I find most people respect the honesty.
I feel like I’m that jerk 😒. I need a way to leave a not for the guys to work on when they get to work in their morning, long before morning in my time zone. But they don’t do email so I have no choice but to text. Apparently a text is something urgent that they feel like they need to respond to immediately. I can’t win
Sounds more lika a necessity. I usually clarify that’s it’s an FYI in a case like yours. More formal, but prevents misunderstandings.
I’ve been trying to remember this
Personally, I love chatty extroverts. They just talk at me and I get to sit there in silence and daydream. They don’t care if you’re listening.
Feeling like people who are very talkative and/or loud do often get in trouble for that as well. People with a lack of self-awareness of one’s own volume and monologuing about things of interest can mean the same people who typically are on the receiving end of trying to be “pulled out of their shell” are also sometimes the people who get told to be quiet.
Amen to that
Leaving this comment feels extroverted, I hate it.
