It happens to us all! What’s a time it happened to you?

  • Programmers, with whom I’d worked with my early career (about a dozen years) are particularly prone to mansplaining. The worst case was a candidate for a “no assholes rule” dismissal who in the course of one company pizza lunch:

    1. Told me what marketing “really” was. (I have a degree in it. He doesn’t.)
    2. Gave me repeated unsolicited advice on how to market the company’s products.
    3. Told me that my marketing campaign for one product (his) was garbage and that I should talk to the person who did the marketing for another product to learn how to “do it right”. I did the marketing for that other product too…
    4. Also told me how much make-up I should use and how to apply it because apparently he’s an expert on feminine health and beauty.

    I mentioned the “no assholes rule” I think? He was later canned for being an asshole, despite his apparently very formidable technical skills.

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      3 days ago

      I swear the higher incidence of neurodivergence among programmers has something to do with the increased likelihood of their mansplaining, something about the pedantic, socially-unaware, info-dumping often comes across that way 🫠

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          3 days ago

          oh I know exactly what you mean 😵 the brodude types can be awful even to one another, the incessant talking over one another makes me want to scream, lol