I’d just like to comment that 10-15 minutes of penetration is a very normal number, and probably a bit above average actually.

I do have one tip for you as a guy, which is, try to have sex in the morning. I always find that I last longer then. I read once that women’s hormone levels peak earlier in the day than men, so maybe that’s why.

Kind of a roundabout tip, but maybe more foreplay before penetration will have you both closer to coming around the same time.

Well, my advice would be to change how you have sex.

Ten to fifteen minutes isn’t an unusual or unhealthy time for someone to take. So, it’s my opinion that instead of decreasing the pleasure by delaying his orgasm beyond what is comfortable, the two of you focus on making sure that you’re far enough along in your arousal cycle that you’ll get there as well.

The most common way to make that happen is extending foreplay. It’s free, easy, and fun.

But, you can also bring toys into the mix. Some women can’t orgasm from vaginal penetration at all, so applying stimulation to the clitoris via a small vibrator, rings with fixed stimulators on them, or even just manual stimulation during penetration may well be the best option.

If that’s still not enough to make sure you both reach orgasm, then worry about delaying his. If he applies tension to the muscles that support the penis, it can stop incipient orgasm. The caveat is that when it’s done a lot, it can lead to what’s called blue balls, so he’ll have to figure out how much is too much. It’s the same thing as a kegal exercise.

If he combines that with, or wants to use it on its own, breath control can help delay orgasm. But that also changes the sex itself, because you usually have to slow down a lot. That’s not a bad thing, unless one or both of you need more speed to reach orgasm.

You can also try different positions. Depending on the shape of a penis, you may make better contact with the “g-spot”, which is where the internal sections of the clitoris are closest to the vaginal wall. If you don’t know where yours is, it’s typically found on the “front” side of the vagina, about two inches inside. It will feel slightly spongy and dense compared to the rest of your vagina.

As the tip of the penis bumps against that spot, extra stimulation is given. This may be enough to cause orgasm. But learning to hit the spot with your penis takes practice, and it varies depending on the position, the shape of the penis, and the exact configuration of the vagina, so you’ll likely need to experiment.

“Doggy” tends to give reliable results for g-spot stimulation with the penis, however, so I’d start there and branch out into positions like reverse cowgirl, prone bone, or variations of those.

Go a second time. The first one is not the main show. Get back into it with foreplay and go again.