my friends tell me stuff like: “No, you can’t be friends with these people!”
when i ask why, they say it’s because they hate me secretly and don’t want me around because i have autism.
when they’re actually being nice to me, then they say “oh yeah, they’re only being nice to you because they pity you. they want to feel good about themselves so they’re nice to the ‘(r-word)’ kid in special ed”.
and it makes me wonder if it’s because they’re looking out for me and they’re either very negative, being truthful and everyone really does see me as “less than human” and are only nice because im autistic, or they’re being mean.
Are you able to get an opinion from someone else (like a teacher) about the people your friends are warning you about?
I’m not sure how your friends are able to make such a blanket judgement.
Even if they have good intentions, and even if those people could end up mistreating you, it’s rarely a waste to try to make connections. Even if the connection is just a flop. You really can’t know people unless you spend a lot of time with them.
If you want to try to make connections with the people your friends are warning you about, just tell them, “Thank you, but I’ll give them a chance and make up my own mind about them.”
I find it odd they say EVERYONE hates op, especially as their friends