I hope my enby peeps can help me out here.

I am very interested in exploring a more feminine expression, but my starting point is masc-af physically, so anything too feminine too quick is going to have a very hard contrast and I’m definitely more of an “I don’t want to stick out much” kind of person.

Any ideas that may be more androgynous, but not attention grabbing that I can try out? I am not good at picking outfits anyway, so I need all the help I can get.

Like beard and full body hair, so obviously lower cut stuff could be very dysmophic atm.

Maybe something that just feelsmore feminine but may not look it so much. You know? Does this make sense?

  • Blahaj_BlastOP
    3·
    1 year ago

    I will keep that in mind for piercing. It has crossed my mind, but attention 😱 even though I could alternate or wear androgynous, though I think my family would perceive androgynous as feminine.

    I’m having trouble bringing myself to shave my beard(had constantly for ~10 years) just because I don’t want to be asked about it a million times because it’s been so long. Not even that anyone will suspect anything just “hey (50th person in a row) noticed you changed something” 😓🙄😮‍💨 “Yeah…”

    • Franzia
      3·
      1 year ago

      You can try trimming it short first, and then do a bad trim and say you had to shave it because the trim ruined it ;)

    • thorn@lemmy.world
      1·
      7 months ago

      Piercings and nail polish really are so excepted now for men by the general public, that it is super easy to get away with that.

      Shaving was a huuuuuuuuuuuuge step for me, as my facial hair was a masculinity mask of sorts. NGL, I cried through it. I wish I could snap my fingers and switch between not/having a full beard again.

      I did a similar thing with slow transition with doing more femme presentation. Would love to hear how things have gone since so much can happen in the span of months, ie how long it’s been since this was first posted

      • Blahaj_BlastOP
        2·
        7 months ago

        I was going to say things have been progressing fairly slowly, but thinking of everything over the past 7 months, maybe it wasn’t as slow as I thought

        I did eventually shave the beard, although it was in stages 😂

        I went from full beard to chin strap, then just sideburns, the nothing…

        My boss mentioned once something like “you’re slowly losing beard” it was actually way less attention and awkwardness than I anticipated.

        I have occasionally painted my nails on the weekends and had a couple insanely nice compliments, one by a guy(super surprised me)

        I did impulsively buy some yoga pants one day, wrong size, but that’s legit girl problems anyway. 😂

        Not much anything public besides nails so far. I have had some clear and almost clear with light glitter on my nails for like 3 weeks now and either no one has noticed or just hasn’t said anything.

        Oh I also dabbled in body hair removal, which has proved to be trickier than I expected but I also thought I looked less weird than expected and found I liked it gone more than I thought I would.

        • thorn@lemmy.world
          1·
          7 months ago

          Awesome. I’m glad you’ve been finding things to try out and stay comfortable with it.