• Apthianos@lemmy.world
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    This sounds like Borderline Personality Disorder. My ex did the same exact stuff. There are a lot of books about it. “I hate you, don’t leave me” is a really great book to read. Helped me out a lot with my ex.

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      I appreciate you trying to empathize, but please stop medicalizing shitty behavior. It doesn’t matter that you were somewhat correct.

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        “Medicalizing shitty behavior”? What exactly would be the alternative? If we don’t categorize it then how else would we find a community of people to get help. These kind of thought process disorders not only destroy the lives of those who have it but also the ones around them. It’s more of a start so people can move forward with figuring things out. “Brain Energy” actually helped me out the most with understanding these “shitty behaviors”. These people are fucked in my opinion because they don’t think they need help. Unless they are low functioning. The best thing to do is keep your distance or get away completely.

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          I know people who have bpd and bipolar disorders. There’s a distinct possibility that I do too. Do you know what I don’t do? Abuse people. That’s why it’s a problem to claim every shitty thing is due to a mental illness. It’s best to condemn the behavior instead of trying to justify it.

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        Further, the book is kind of notoriously heteronormative and transphobic…

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          It looks like you’re right. It’s an old book. I read it like 8 years ago. What other books would be better?

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          I don’t know if that’s true, but medicalizing behavior is the fast track to demonizing the millions of people who have the conditions without being a shitty person.

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            You usually don’t get diagnosed with a severe condition like this unless you have been doing a lot of shitty things. BPD isn’t like ADHD. BPD is a medley of other disorders that can even include things like ADHD. In a lot of BPD people, for example, treating their ADHD can help their other symptoms.

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              I’m sure that it can. But don’t spread lies, bpd and bipolar is usually discovered through manic and/or depressive episodes. I had a manic episode that led to a psychotic break, and managed not to abuse anyone. My family found some of what happened actually mildly funny, and probably would have actually laughed if the situation wasn’t so serious. These conditions are discovered through terrifying and difficult situations, not shitty behavior.

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                This doesn’t sound anything like BPD. If I were you I’d get a second opinion and also look into some alternatives that could be causing it. Other medical conditions like gut issues or blood sugar issues can lead to things like this.

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                  I figure you’re not a doctor specializing in this, so you should not be so confident. This sounds like extreme confirmation bias to me.

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                  If I wanted your opinion about my mental health, I would have booked an appointment. You’re not a psychiatrist, so stop pretending to be one online.

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      Borderline, Bipolar II, and untreated ADHD because the bipolar meds she was on conflicted with any potential ADHD meds.