Thought I might post this here in case anyone has suggestions or whatever. I am looking for a gender neutral name to use somewhere. I was thinking about how Jane / John Doe is the name for someone unidentified, which is pretty cool. But considering that Jane and John are basically “girl” and “boy” - the names, it’s a pity that there isn’t a third neutral equivalent of those names.

Digging around I saw a suggestion of “Jay” elsewhere but I’m not sure if that feels right to me. Would that strike you as a gender neutral name if you came across it in the wild? Maybe I’ve just known too many Johns and Jasons.

Or does anyone maybe have any other cool suggestions if you feel so inclined? The problem I find personally with a lot of “gender neutral names lists” that I come across, is that a lot of the names seem a bit too Gen Z to feel right for me, personally. Names like Kai or River are pretty cool but also sound like names some of my friends might have named their kids.

Anyone know any cool gender neutral names that are maybe a bit more born in the late '80s millennial?

Edit: Just found an interesting one (for me). The Dutch for both Jane and John seems to be Jan, and is listed as a gender neutral name. Definitely a name I’ve heard for both men and women (although pronounced differently where I’m from).

Edit 2: I think my shortlist is now Jan, Jean and for an attractive outside of the John / Jane thing, I’m kinda liking Alex.