I’m a bit confused, mainly because I’ve never been told this before. I once was trying to talk to someone I met, and asked them questions about themselves to get to know them.
After a while, they just said, “You don’t have to do this, you know. I’m fine with being silent.”
How would you respond to this? I don’t really know the implications or anything.
the question here is how many hints/suggestions/requests has OP already blown past? if all they talk about is the weather, chances are you should just let the conversation drop.
it could be cultural, but yeah, I feel like the person was quite exasperated with OP and was all-but-point-blank telling them to stop talking.
I just remained in silence, then asked them some questions like “So… how’s life?”
Them: “It’s ok, I have a part-time job and usually just stay at home.”
(Silence)
“What kind of things do you do at home?”
“watch tv. I like movies and whatever Adult Swim show comes on.”
Then after a while of silence, they told me I didn’t have to do this.
Yeah; they got the read that you were feeling awkward with silence, but they didn’t want to be asked questions about their life.
Thanks!