She acknowledged that I did talk to her about it beforehand, but hasn’t been able to properly process it yet.

We’re OK, I’m just venting.

  • captainlezbian@lemmy.world
    7·
    8 days ago

    Yeah I’m trans but I transitioned a decade ago and young enough for my mom to teach me how to girl (ok I was an angsty tomboyish lesbian at the time so I brushed a lot of it off but I did learn to wash a bra)

    And yeah, I used to hand wash and if it’s got hooks or anything delicate it gets hand washed in the sink and hang dried in the shower. Otherwise it joins literally everything else in the washing machine on cold and delicate and thrown in the dryer.

    Has this influenced which bras I buy? Yes. I’ve definitely developed a high effort high femme style, but that’s for high effort time. I’m not putting in that much effort for a bra that’s job is literally just to make me professionally presentable at the factory. Which really is proof I’m my mother’s daughter.

    • Shelbyeileen@lemmy.world
      3·
      7 days ago

      Mine only connect if there’s a lot of lacey/delicate things in the wash with them. If you hook them together before they go in, they’re less likely to come apart, but once I started throwing them in with shirts, sweaters, pants and PJs, they stopped hooking into other things.