If I get to my dentist on time, he makes me wait 20 min.
If I get to my dentist 10 min late he refuses to see me.
I’ve experienced this myself, and it is a double standard.
Yeah if the dentist makes you wait for 20 minutes, you definitely should have the right not to see him
How long before I get the right to sit the dentist in the chair and extract all their teeth?
Every dentist could get a full set of dentures throughout their college education.
Exclusive spaces for women and minorities while requiring male spaces to accept women and minorities. Like women or black only colleges and associations.
Sorry fellow white dudes, we still have so many comparative advantages and there is too much systemic racism and misogyny left to address before a white or men only club is in any way comparable.
This actually is still helpful for us white dudes, if you meet another white guy that gets pissy about exclusive spaces you know that person isn’t worth talking to anymore!
No, that is a double-standard, it’s just a double-standard you’re arguing is justified.
The definition of a double standard is that it’s unjust. At least, in common English.
Mmmmm…meta-injustice…(drool)
it would be more of a double standard if the two groups were on equal footing, but they’re not.
Asking as a brown person, can you tell me what advantages white people are receiving that I’m not?
I scanned your comments and you’re not totally off your rocker, so I’ll not be as big of an ass as I usual am.
Your experience is an anecdote. The plural of anecdote is not “data”.
The data shows that minorities are unfairly targeted by police. Arrested more, released more as innocent. Prosecuted more for the same rate of incidence.
The data shows that having an “ethnic” name gets fewer responses to an identical resume.
The data shows that for literal decades, some would say still, minorities couldn’t get home loans in good areas with good schools.
What benefit do white people have? I have never, literally not once, thought or cared about my race. My privilege is getting to live without noticing my race in any meaningful context. That’s why white people have to be “woken”. We’re comfortably asleep in our bubble, from birth.
If you don’t see it, great! But that might say less about reality, and more about your ability to perceive it.
What benefit do white people have? I have never, literally not once, thought or cared about my race. My privilege is getting to live without noticing my race in any meaningful context. That’s why white people have to be “woken”. We’re comfortably asleep in our bubble, from birth.
Yeah, I got to do all that too. None of it required some special place for minorities and women to go to. All it required was people not talking about race every 5 seconds. What even is this hypothetical safe space for women and minorities that white people would theoretically be upset about anyway?
And yes, I find it far easier and more effective to change my perception of reality than try to make reality conform to my emotional state.
I think people who want to be offended will find something to take offense over and people who want to play victim will find something to claim persecution over. And I think when everyone shouts about how racist and unfair everything is all the time, it detracts from the most heinous actionable items.
I always hate talking in vague generalities. I like specific events, and specific courses of action.
It’s all a sliding scale of course. It’s the age old push and pull off nature vs nurture; being a product of the environment that created you and free will.
I think it’s telling that white people on the left are more concerned with systemic racism than minorities in general are.
Do you think it’s ok to have a women’s only space for women who have been raped by a man and are scared and scarred?
Also I disagree that minorities are less concerned about systemic racism, as everything I’ve learned about it has come from minorities. Maybe white people are louder about it, but duh, there’s more of them.
Actually no, I don’t think women’s only spaces for rape are necessarily beneficial, because I’ll point to the stupid man vs bear argument.
That’s the same thinking that people use to keep trans people out of specific bathrooms. Fear of some small few despicable criminal elements shouldn’t be used as an excuse to sow fear against entire swathes of population.
A women who has been raped shouldn’t be coached into believing that all men are rapists and should be assumed to be rapists. Additionally, allowing men in would serve to destigmatize the concept of male rape. Where are men who have been sexually assaulted supposed to go?
As for the minorities being less interested, I was simply going off some polling numbers I saw during the election. I forget which stats specifically but I remember seeing some numbers that struck me as counterintuitive. Think it was something like Hispanics here actually being in favor of stronger border control and whatnot.
I can talk back to the police in a non-violent setting without getting shot.
As a white male, there is zero chance of deing discriminated against when applying for 95% of jobs.
I can walk into most buildings without being questioned. Nobody has ever told me that I don’t belong somewhere because of who I am.
While whites that live in poverty can face some discrimination compared to middle class whites, $100 in clothing is enough to fit in most public spaces without drawing any attention. Minorities can’t do that.
Those are the most obvious things, but they also mean that my economic and social standing basically went up my entire life by just being polite and working. That builds on itself, and while not all white men are successful. Being white isn’t one of their hurdles.
All of those things are advantages compared to people who are not white males.
Well so far I haven’t been shot by any cops that I’ve interacted with, have not been discriminated against in employment, nor been questioned as to my presence in any building. But if you want to feel guilty, go ahead, it’s a free country. My dad came to this country with $6 in his pocket and did quite well.
Almost sounds insulting though, kinda smacks of telling minorities who succeed "oh, you did so good despite your obvious disadvantages. " Like that scene from Star Trek (2009) with the Vulcans giving Spock shit for having a human mother.
So because you have not experienced those things, no one else of color has? No.
As a white male I know I have privilege and use it to help those that don’t. When I see someone of color being shit on by people in power, like cops, or other people who think they’re above them, I step up in and say something at minimum.
Doesn’t sound that different to me from "As a white male I know I’m better. "
I know I’m judged as better by others, but I don’t believe that shit for a second. I know I’m not better than anyone else just for being white.
You’re free to feel as you please maybe once you’re shot at you’ll understand what others go through.
I mean if you want me to admit our police and criminal justice system are in need of reform, I agree. I don’t think it needs to be tackled from a race angle. I think fixing the broader problems with the system will take care of the race concerns.
Daniel Shaver was white. Police training is completely anti public by design. Police are poorly educated on the law. Police are corrupt and cover for each other. Police, judges, and prosecutors are way too cozy with each other. Qualified Immunity is a nightmare.
Solve that crap first then let’s see how bad the system racism remains.
Well so far I haven’t been shot by any cops that I’ve interacted with
maybe you’re just not brown enough ! fat chance
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There are people out there that would not hire you based on the only thing I know about you. I’ve met enough of them that I have to assume there are more.
That doesn’t make it systemic. It means there are morons out there, and some of them own businesses.
enough of them and it becomes systemic
Someone asked what the privilege was, and I told them one. Nobody said anything about systemic.
Tbc there are systemic injustices, just not mentioned here lol
I don’t know your situation, but I certainly can tell you that at least in the Western Hemisphere, in the aggregate descendants of indigenous people and slaves are overcoming systemic injustice that robbed their ancestors of economic advantages, dignity, and liberty, and often introduced intergenerational trauma as well. And I don’t mean, like, in the past, redlining for example was legal within our parents lifetime and related forms of discrimination are still practiced today.
I can tell cops to fuck themselves with zero fear of reprisal because I look and sound wealthy enough to sue.
edit: Statistically speaking as a white guy im ~50% less likely to be shot by police.
If a Black man dies, he is more likely to have been shot by a cop compared to a white man, if a white guy has an interaction with a cop he is ≈30% more likely to be shot, the real white privilege is going years without interacting with a cop.
I agree in regards to whites only spaces, but men’s only spaces have apolitical reasons to exist (just as not all of the reasons for women’s only spaces to exist are political.) The experience of being male is just different and sometimes some people just need space to discuss.
We aren’t talking about men’s support groups for victims of violence, or things of that nature.
Some people can be trusted with some responsibility, and others can’t.
i am not 100% confident but this question reminds me of the paradox of tolerance argument.
Four lefts aren’t a right, but three lefts are.
How about 4 slight lefts?
Men hitting women is different from women hitting men.
Bullshit. Nobody should hit anyone, and it’s illegal both ways.
I agree. I’m talking more morally and less legally. I’ve seen countless videos where a woman is feebly tapping or shoving a man, the man is clearly physically unbothered and unhurt, but his ego is bruised, so he KOs her with one punch. Then the comments come flooding in about how she deserved it, “equal rights equal fights” etc.
It’s not a fair fight. Of course there are exceptions, there are exceptions to everything. But for most people most of the time, a woman hitting a man is nowhere near as physically impactful as a man hitting a woman. The ‘toolset’ is undeniably different.
If a 5-foot man slaps a 6-foot man, and the 6-foot man laughs and then beats the shit out of the smaller guy and stomps on his head, most people would look down on the bigger man for taking it too far with someone he could easily beat and who presented no real physical threat to him. It’s like that. I’m not denying the agency of the woman, or saying that her assaulting a man is fine, it’s that the response to it from the man is usually an order of magnitude more severe with half the effort. And again, I know there are exceptions to this. Men can be abused and beaten by women, domestic violence against men should be taken more seriously.
In street/bar fights, where a woman is picking a fight with a man, the man is rightly restrained by societal pressure to not unload on her the way he would if it were a man picking a fight with him. This isn’t sexism or baseless gender roles or any of that, it’s because most of the time, untrained men are wielding a sledgehammer to an untrained woman’s carpentry hammer (untrained in combat sports, I mean). So in that way, it’s not a double-standard despite sounding like one, no more than it’s a double standard to not beat the shit out of another man half your size when you would beat the shit out of him for the same offence if he were your size or bigger. Not that we should beat anyone up, of course! But it happens and will always happen, so it’s nice to have at least one broad rule in an otherwise-ruleless endeavour: men shouldn’t beat the shit out of women unless they really need to, to defend themselves from an actual threat, a threat to something more than their ego or temper.
P.S. Thanks for replying without calling me a misandrist or telling me to kill myself 💗 Genuinely appreciate it!
Well stated! But to build on that, that should be already known and understood by everyone, so at some point isn’t it a case of “fire hot, don’t touch?”
Like with the facts stated as is, it sounds like a woman would have to be stupid to attack a man with such a power discrepancy, so from this moral argument, you just have an attacking woman being controlled by their feelings of anger vs an attacked man being controlled by their feelings of self defense. Why does the physical facts matter at that point? Might makes wrong? Just because the man is born stronger his feelings aren’t valid?
The reason we speak legally is to remove the feelings from the equation and make it as dispassionate and logical as we can.
But obviously it’s a big murky mess because the law isn’t wholly blind to feelings and motives.
So, if I hit Rhonda Rousey with my weak-ass jab and she uppercuts me through the ceiling in response, I should still be the one who gets the harsher punishment, right?
Dumbass misandrist logic. Just accept that no one should be hitting anyone and punish violent abusers equally.
Hahaha you chose the only argument that could’ve sounded dumber than the OP comment🤣
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People often ask me how or why I work for a media company that works in front of recording footage if I have stage fright. One does not necessitate having to expect the other, which is good because there’s very little I can do work-wise.
Binary
What about boolean though? /s
When I lean into them all I get is boos.
A bubble bastard. It sounds like a double standard, but it most certainly is not.
