I’m an asexual woman with a boyfriend. Although I don’t particularly like sex, I kind of would like to start a family with him and have kids with him.
I know I could just adopt, but I have no idea if I really have the money for that.
Am ace, have kids. They’re great, I love em. Wanting a family is independent of sexual orientation I think.
If you find sex uninteresting and not actively repulsive I might suggest natural conception using ovulation timing and the like to up your odds.
If the cost of adoption is scaring you then IVF and the like are probably going to be discouragingly high. Though I would mention that childbirth and rearing can also be quite expensive. Growing your family is a big financial commitment.
I don’t think I should be trusted with raising a dog, much less a child. Like, if my brother had a child and I was closely involved with their family, that could be cool, but no interest in the responsibility myself. Also aro, so there’s no starting a family with a SO.
My siblings and I were conceived via IVF (and almost all of my half-siblings were too) and my mom wasn’t even the person who birthed us. While its been cool to meet the formerly anonymous donor, we don’t see them as family. And birthmom is someone we chose to excise from our lives. Genetics doesn’t make a family in case you’re concerned about that with adoption.
If your concern with conceiving is the sex part, couldn’t you just deliver the sperm artificially?
Have you considered IVF? I don’t know if you have to fit a criteria to get it, though, and if you’re American it’ll be pretty expensive.
Also, to answer your first question, I, myself, don’t want kids. However, my opinion on the matter is unrelated to my sexuality (abrosexual+demiromantic).
I like children but I have zero interest in a relationship or making them.
