Honestly doing something enjoyable might be better. I just need to make sure I don’t have space to think about my problems because then I end up complaining and I can’t figure out when that’s socially acceptable or not. I ask permission first and try to keep it brief but my friends pretty much always get pissed off with me for being too negative.
So I’ll work a lot of overtime for the next four years.
Ah, personally life has taught me to be kinda weary of spirit shine people that treat any negativity as something to shun and look away from. They can be nasty and selfish in other ways that are worse than someone just saying what they really feel. Not allowing a friend to unload once in a while because you don’t want your personal good vibes to be affected is pretty selfish and a negative act itself.
I’m probably reading into things too much and I don’t want to come across like a Redditor going “lawyer up, hit the gym, delete Facebook” but the fact that you even feel like you need to ask permission to speak about your troubles is kind of a red flag to me. Walking on eggshells and watching your words is what you do with strangers or in the office, friend(s) are supposed to be people who you can let your guard down around. I put the ‘s’ in brackets because really not everyone needs to be a close friend and sometimes one person is all you need.
Sorry for the paragraphs but I feel like I’ve been there before. I know from myself that dealing with people who are in the valley of depression isn’t always easy but maybe that’s how you can tell who your friends really are. Find yourself someone that will let you actually get the bad feelings off your chest so that you can maybe feel a little better and be able to genuinely enjoy lighter moments without feeling like you need to fake it.
Honestly doing something enjoyable might be better. I just need to make sure I don’t have space to think about my problems because then I end up complaining and I can’t figure out when that’s socially acceptable or not. I ask permission first and try to keep it brief but my friends pretty much always get pissed off with me for being too negative.
So I’ll work a lot of overtime for the next four years.
Ah, personally life has taught me to be kinda weary of spirit shine people that treat any negativity as something to shun and look away from. They can be nasty and selfish in other ways that are worse than someone just saying what they really feel. Not allowing a friend to unload once in a while because you don’t want your personal good vibes to be affected is pretty selfish and a negative act itself.
I’m probably reading into things too much and I don’t want to come across like a Redditor going “lawyer up, hit the gym, delete Facebook” but the fact that you even feel like you need to ask permission to speak about your troubles is kind of a red flag to me. Walking on eggshells and watching your words is what you do with strangers or in the office, friend(s) are supposed to be people who you can let your guard down around. I put the ‘s’ in brackets because really not everyone needs to be a close friend and sometimes one person is all you need.
Sorry for the paragraphs but I feel like I’ve been there before. I know from myself that dealing with people who are in the valley of depression isn’t always easy but maybe that’s how you can tell who your friends really are. Find yourself someone that will let you actually get the bad feelings off your chest so that you can maybe feel a little better and be able to genuinely enjoy lighter moments without feeling like you need to fake it.