(First off, I just got banned for having multiple accounts :/)
I frequented the AITA posts and the advice posts, and I saw one from a teenage girl.
She has a boyfriend, and her male friend wouldn’t leave her alone as he was obsessed with her.
She kept telling him no and wanted to be just friends with him, until she had to block him.
The comments were outrageous. Some were saying stuff like “good on you for blocking him. you’re not responsible for his feelings, nta”.
however, some people were calling her a whore, saying she was seeking validation from other men, that men and women couldn’t be friends.
I have no idea where they’re drawing this conclusion. I know many women who have male friends with nothing between them.
And it’s completely plausible for a male friend to have feelings. She can’t control his feelings. She didn’t start dating/making out with him and clearly wasn’t interested in him, so she didn’t cheat.
they also said she was asking for him to be attracted to her, that it was her fault, etc.
They were even saying that the girl was terrible and that the guy was “NTA, not even a little” because he just had a “harmless crush and couldn’t control his feelings” even though he literally asked her to cheat on her bf and guilt-tripped her right before she blocked him?
This feels kind of gross, poor OP was 15 when she made the post :/
Yeah, this kind of thing makes me glad that I got banned from Reddit too. People jump on any excuse to shit on women there. The place seems progressive on the surface and has some pretty great feminist and queer communities but there has always been this underlying current there in the larger Reddit.
People dogpile and seem to almost take glee when there’s a chance to shit on a woman for something. It gives me the impression that they just love to jump on any chance they get to go “See? The ‘females’ are also bad.” But it comes with 10x the spite and hate, like with Ellen Pao versus anything that has happened on Reddit since. If they had a female CEO during the API thing, they would’ve tanked.
Another one of my favourites was a thread discussing a 10km fun run for mostly non serious athletes, where it was suggested that it was a little silly to have separate male and female categories (I think it might have even involveda woman getting best time but a lesser prize). And the thread kinda filled up with walls of text about hand grip strength and in depth analysis on Olympic athletes. For a fun run.
But imagine going around calling teenage girls “whores”. What pieces of shit. Funnily enough, the comment that got me banned from Reddit was a comment calling out men in general for allowing men in general to be pieces of shit (in a subreddit meant for calling out misogyny no less). But calling teenage girls “whores” is ok. I guess I’d expect nothing less from the ex moderator of jailbait.