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See that’s where we’re not seeing eye-to-eye
I see a dude/kid/teenager have long hair act feminine or vice versa
A person may be more masculine or feminine in whatever way. But you are still the gender/sex that you were born with. Whatever you do in life based on who you are that’s up to you! Cool you made yourself happy. But bottom line. You’re still a dude or a girl at birth.
In what way are you “a dude or a girl at birth” if “dude or girl” is something people decide by how you look and not by your biology? And how do you explain masculinity or femininity being culturally relative? Men hold hands and kiss each other on the cheeks in some cultures. Those expressions of affection are masculine, as are skirts and well manicured nails in other cultures. There are some culture where being thin and vain are considered masculine. And some cultures where being stocky and blunt are considered feminine.
Femininity and masculinity are 2 words that essentially mean “of men and women”. It’s just a roundabout way of referring to genders. A feminine man is gender non-conforming, their femininity goes against their assigned gender. They are presumed to be masculine because of their assigned gender, and therefore discouraged from being feminine. Allowing people to self determine their gender directly liberates them from this process.
If you’re willing to allow someone like me to exist, someone with a vagina and estrogen and breasts who was nonetheless assigned male at birth, what functionally is preventing you from respecting my identity as a woman? Why is that unacceptable to you? What is being damaged by acknowledging my gender? Language isn’t sacred, and I feel like I’ve more than pointed out already that the word woman is not determined by someone’s biology. So what is the reason why you insist that society affirm and uphold the right of other people to tell me what gender I am? If it’s not biology and it is restrictive, literally giving me rules for who I am and who I’m allowed to be and how people must treat me, like it’s demonstrably severely damaging to my mental well-being, then why is it necessary for assigned gender to still be upheld? Why is it okay for you to continue to assert that about me? You disrespect me and my experiences when you continue to call me a man.
You also say that you’re glad I made myself happy, but earlier said “9 more days ❤️”. A clear attempt to make me feel threatened and unsafe because of political persecution at the hands of the upcoming change in presidency. If you’re actually glad I myself happy, if it actually matters to you that I am healthy and have good quality of life, why do you promote support and endorse misinformation that is a direct threat to my safety? Why do you insist that society should take actions that would directly harm me? How can my well-being matter to you if in the same breath you disrespect my dignity as a person?
And sorry because I still would address as ma’am or ms.
But still in my head you are a man. You were born with a penis. Take the pills away and what happens?
I highly doubt you would agree that I’m a man if we met. Even if you could tell I was trans id still be willing to bet you wouldn’t be able to internally conceive of me as a man. I am very conventionally feminine and dress and present myself in a way that is very in line with how other women my age dress and present.
I have had reassignment surgery, so nothing would happen if the pills were taken away. My body does not produce any more testosterone than a cisgender woman’s does. Even if I hadnt had reassignment surgery, biology still isn’t how we determine gender. My gender wouldn’t change in the absence of medication.
Yeah okay buddy
I can’t tell what you’re responding to here. Are you saying you know how I look? I never said I was pretty, nor did I say that you definitely wouldn’t be able to tell i was trans. I said that actually speaking with and interacting with me I feel you’d have a hard time conceiving of me as a man. I do not fall in line with western masculinity in really any way. I’m also very confident in my identity. You calling me a man doesn’t make me feel uncomfortable, just disrespected.
A penis or vagina at birth.
You should respond more to what I said there. I added more at the end. Actually try and respond to what I’m saying. If your position is defensible and you are competent at defending it then prove it.
We already established that gender is not determined by biology. We determined that a dozen times over at this point. You assign gender based on what you see, and it’s up to people to correct you if you got it wrong. This works fine when the person is cisgender, but you have decided is unacceptable when they’re trans.
Just stop taking the pills and tell me what happens.
I used to be a very focused person and that’s who I thought I was. But know what happened? I stopped taking ADHD medication and Whataya know I wasn’t always so focused.
I also have ADHD. No argumentative points to that. I just thought I’d point that out.
As I said in my other comment, nothing, as I have had gender reassignment surgery. And even if I hadn’t it wouldn’t matter. My gender is not determined by my hormones.
Listen I got things to do and we’re not gonna see eye to eye. Good luck to ya
We’re not going to see eye to eye because you won’t consider my perspective. You’ve already decided that you’re right and that I’m wrong before the conversation even starts. You’re not open to the idea that maybe you aren’t right about this. I’d ask you to consider that. Just open yourself to that one thing, that one possibility that maybe you’re wrong about this. Consider that maybe you haven’t thought of every possible challenge to your view of gender. I am absolutely willing to consider your perspective, and I feel I more than have throughout this conversation. Afford me the same dignity and treat my ideas as legitimate points worth considering. If you’re definitely right and I’m definitely wrong, then considering my arguments shouldn’t matter, right? Because if I’m wrong anyway, then my arguments shouldn’t change that.
I don’t think you’re really a bad person. You said some shock value troll comments at the start of all this but then actually spent like 2 hours of your time talking with me. The good thing to do, the morally right thing to do, when faced with information that challenges our worldview, is to consider whether we are right or not.
Oh I’m gonna watch that video when I have some free time. Always try to consider and educate myself on the other side ya know
Gender is absolutely determined by biology. Remember I said I’ve never misgendered someone? You just chose not to believe a fact, remember?
I don’t dispute the fact, I pointed out that I don’t believe you. It’s fine if that’s true though, because i then shared my own experience of being mistaken for a girl many times as a child and teenager. I was assigned male at birth, so at the time saw myself as a boy and I think you’d agree at the time that I was. I still was called a girl all the time. When I corrected people, they accepted the correction.
I stated a lot more about how gender isn’t biologically determined in the above. If you want to challenge individual points I’ve made, I’d like it if you could actually respond to those points. Instead of just blindly state that you’re right despite all the challenges I’ve made that you haven’t responded to.