Filmmaker Jeff Baena – best known for directing films like “Life After Beth” and “The Little Hours,” and the husband of Aubrey Plaza, has died … TMZ has learned.

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    Geez… I swear to god if my obituary opens with Wife’s Name’s husband, I’d be pretty bummed.

    Suicide, also. Dang.

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      Marrying my wife was the best decision I ever made. I would be happy if people continue to associate me with her in any context after my death regardless if I survive her or not.

      In the end, am I gonna care?

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      Why? I’m my wife’s husband as much as I am anything else, and plenty of people refer to folks as “John’s friend” or “Erin’s husband” to identify them in context.

      Also, would you have known who this was if they didn’t? Some would for sure, but a lot of people who care about his films still might not have put the pieces together without Aubrey Plaza’s name in there, so I don’t see the issue.

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        I don’t disagree with it being there but it wouldn’t feel great to be the leading description. “Director, filmmaker, and husband of” would emphasize his accomplishments.

        Meow that I think about it, Idk why we’re debating a TMZ headline. Sorry and good day.

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          Fair enough, but that’s such a minor difference that I can’t imagine caring about it if I, personally, were the subject. I am definitely not calling any/everyone who feels differently ego-centric, but ego is the only reason I specifically could imagine being offended by that. Not looking to start a debate over TMZ at all haha, was just wondering if there were particular issues folks had with it that I wasn’t thinking of.

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        Also, would you have known who this was if they didn’t?

        I didn’t know he was married to Aubry, so while she is better known it did not provide enough information to be put first.

        “Director Jeff Baena, Aubrey Plaza’s Husband, Dead at 47” is the exact same words in an order that is better at putting the subject of the article first.

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          Yes. But see, need optimize headline maximum eyeballs, maximum ad revenue. Aubrey Plaza number 1. More eyeballs.

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        I stated how I’d feel about it. I didn’t say you should feel that way. I guess I’m fucking wrong though, forgot I was on the internet for a moment.

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          I was curious why you felt that way, not saying you were wrong. It was an interesting reaction to the headline, so I was looking to discuss/understand it, not debate.

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            It made him feel like less of a man for a minute and he had to understand how women feel when they are diminished by being called “Mrs. <husbands name>”

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      Uhhh I’m not sure if you’ve heard about how women have it but it’s almost always like that for women

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      Your feelings are valid but the opposite view is also perfectly reasonable.

      I would be proud of my wife for being so successful (or, I would have been while I was still alive).

      There’s no shame in being in your partner’s shadow. It should be a source of pride and enjoyment instead.

      To take an extreme example, look at Dolly Parton and her completely not-a-celebrity husband. Do you think that Dolly Parton’s husband is embarrassed that he isn’t famous or that he’s just thrilled to be married to Dolly Parton?

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        This is literally the first I’ve ever considered that fact that Dolly Parton might have a husband. She’s such an icon that she practically transcends such mortal trivialities.

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          Apparently he owned a paving company and has never, ever wanted to be even remotely famous. IIRC, she said he really did eye a pretty redhead at the bank when they were first married, but it was a nothingburger, and she had to make up the name and mine her own psyche pretty deep to come up with the insecurity of the speaker in Jolene.

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      I’d hate to be insecure enough to feel threatened about being married to a much more famous or successful woman. There’s no shame in the world knowing her name and not mine. I can still be a good person and be good at my job in obscurity.

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      Why? Most people know who Aubrey Plaza is. Most people don’t know him. It helps anchor the headline with who it is.

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      I think its fair. Sometimes I go months referring to her as my wife because it’s weird to refer to her by name with those who don’t known her.

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      I BARELY know who Aubrey Plaza is, I guarantee I wouldn’t have known her husband just by his name alone.

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    Man that girl has been through a lot I feel like. She’s such a different personality too. Hope she’s okay.

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    I knew Aubrey was married, but I couldn’t name her husband if my life depended on it. I’m sorry he was in so much pain, and I hope Aubrey is okay.

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      Yeah, this is what people say instead of being empathetic.

      It’s not incorrect, it’s just an inconsiderate thing to say; like telling a person “getting upset doesn’t help” when their house is on fire.

      Either help, support, or leave them alone, otherwise you’re actively choosing to be an asshole and literally nothing more.

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        Yeah, this is what people say instead of being empathetic.

        No, this the phrase I tell myself when I’m having a hard time and was hoping others would take comfort in it.

        Obviously though ive exposed myself as someone incapable of feeling for others though.

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        Ken Baldwin, a survivor of a suicide attempt from the Golden Gate Bridge, reflected that upon jumping, he instantly realized that all the problems he thought were unfixable in his life were, in fact, solvable—except for having jumped

        But go off - I’m sure you and only you have a good idea of why people commit suicide, probably because you’ve considered it once yourself and now like to pretend like that gives you some unique insight that makes you feel special and important.

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          K. Don’t take my word for it. Maybe read a fucking book by an expert, instead of spouting anecdotes.

          Or just continue with your genius ‘get over it’ strategy.

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            Yeah thats clearly what I thought was going to happen when I commented it. I couldn’t possibly just be sharing the phrase that gives me personal comfort in the hopes of it would help others. What i was really doing was attacking all suicidal people because I live a perfect life and have never experienced sadness or despair at all.

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      Aubrey Plaza, you must have heard of. She’s in parks and rec, Agatha all along, legion, and many other shows and movies.

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        I guess I don’t really pay attention to actors and actresses names and just recognize them from something else I’ve seen. I don’t think I’ve seen those two things after parks and rec

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      What the heck is wrong with you? The poor man died by suicide and you’re downplaying it. Please let the family grieve instead of making weird remarks. That’s really not cool.

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        Not only that, talking about the attractiveness of this man’s wife and how her husband’s suicide might affect that. Fuckin’ gross.

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        I don’t understand suicide. There was a lot to his life to seemingly envy, and support network failure is a reasonable consideration if suicide claim is true.

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          “I don’t understand” is a fine statement to start with, but it’s not the end. Take the initiative to educate yourself on the topic.

          The latest research suggests that depression may be caused by low neuron production in the hippocampus, leading to lower neurotransmitter communication in the brain. This condition is passed down from generation to generation, genetically. Stressful life events can also contribute significantly given the above conditions, but they’re not essential.

          It’s an illness and can be cured, but depression puts a damper on seeking help. Friends, family, and even the affected person themselves often don’t see the warning signs in the moment.

          Current antidepressants boost neurotransmitter production and can take weeks to be effective, so new research is investigating boosting neuron production as an alternative or complement.

          FYI I’m not an expert on this topic; I just took 10 minutes to research it online.

          https://www.health.harvard.edu/mind-and-mood/what-causes-depression

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      Made good movies. Reflects poorly on Aubrey, who is easy to crush on.

      What the actual fuck is wrong with you? This is the most unhinged psychopath take. Seek help.