I was kicked out of rentals multiple times for being visibly queer. I was scared out of some more by people who even moved after me, but made my life a living hell just for being queer. I was driven into near daily crying during highschool by my peers and sometimes even teachers. I was regularly spat on in public with no reaction from other people. I had a car full of tank top wearing men stop with the intention of beating me up when I was in middle school because they thought I looked too much like a “f*g”. To see people, some of whom apparently so privileged they don’t even experience systematic queerphobia as per own admission, claim us here aren’t queer is so hurtful because it feels like it dismisses my entire lifetime of queer pain. Sincere fuck you to the people who make those claims. Maybe you are the one who isn’t even queer and just sows discord amogus. 
I’m still a baby budding imposter feeling queer but fortunately I was also raised a cis het man so when someone tells me that I’m not queer I have the socialized energy to say “how dare you tell me what I’m not!”
How dare anyone tell any of my comrades, queer, trans, or otherwise, what they aren’t. You are who you are whoever you are. You’re all heckin valid. We’re all heckin valid. Send those bad beans to me I’ll smash em if they tell you otherwise
I like to repeatedly yell “WEEE WOOO WEEEE WOOO THE GENDER POLICE ARE ON THE SCENE”
gonna be honest – “how dare you tell me what I’m not” is a hard place to get to for a lot of trans femmes. it’s remarkable how fast social conditioning snaps back the other way.
so: you’re valid