but where would you put me? 😶

  • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.worldOPM
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    A bit. I’m not naturally very dominant or even assertive, but I learned to be that way. Now people look up to me, but the responsibility isn’t fun 😖

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      Fake it it till you, make it get stuck doing it an have no way out.

      But TBH I massively prefer to work with people who “fake” their assertiveness. Getting people who are actually cocksure to accept new ideas is near-impossible if there is even the tiniest incompatibility with something they already consider true.

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      No no no, don’t feel lurked at or weirdly idealized!!

      People like myself really do look up to you, because you seem kinda reasonably okay.
      As in, you are someone with a state worth striving for.

      I really hope I don’t make you uncomfy, since that would be the last thing I want. <3

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        Don’t worry about it! I’m happy that you see me as someone who’s in an admirable state, as in many ways, I probably am. Despite how scary life can be, I have managed to keep my sanity without ignoring the situation. It’s one of the things I’m most proud of myself for <3

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      Some of us like to ask, and play in either direction that works for both. I genuinely hope you find happiness.