• Lost_My_Mind@lemmy.world
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    You don’t.

    Source: raised by a single parent who yelled and chased me out of the kitchen anytime I tried asking questions of what he was doing.

    Now 41, and have NO CLUE how to cook.

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      at 41 its now your job to train yourself, if you care to. if that is your excuse on a blind date, its a red flag.

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        Pssshhhhh, if you think lack of cooking is going to affect my dating life, don’t worry. I’ve yet to find the type of woman who’s personality type would mesh well with mine.

        So, I can’t remember the last time I had a date, but I do remember always being disappointed. The VAST majority of women look down on you if you tell them that you’ll never have a drivers liscense (me, not her), that you don’t forsee yourself traveling ever, that you don’t like music, and the whole concept of marriage seems like a financial scam from start until either death or divorce.

        If I were to date someone long term, I’d need them to be my speed by nature. Them being my speed has to be something that is within their personality, not me trying to get them to slow down.

        My idea of a fun Friday night is to stay in, avoid the bars, and maybe watch a dvd. Most women want to go out, go to clubs, or go on a road trip somewhere. I don’t even want to leave my recliner. Although if I was with someone I’d switch to the couch.

        But that person doesn’t exist.

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          aktually what they want is to feel safe and comfortable with someone who understands and appreciates them. if you wanna be a home skillet thats wonderful. but yes lack of cooking definitely affects your dating potential, and this is something within your power to do something about. but really you shouldnt learn for dating points. you should learn for you. survival skill, hobby, passion, pleasure, achievement get.

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            if you think lack of cooking is going to affect my dating life…

            I advise anyone who enjoys eating tasty food learn how to cook. Even if you live the rest of your life single, being able to knock out a tasty meal when desired is a gamechanger to your quality of life. And if you do find a romantic partner, seeing them enjoy food you’ve prepared them is a special kind of warm-and-fuzzy. 10/10

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              Even if you could care less about the tastiness of the food entering your face hole, everyone should know enough cooking that they can take care of themselves. I don’t care if you have or want a romantic partner, knowing how to feed yourself should be next on the list after being able to bathe and dress yourself as a fundamental life skill.

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            Appriciates? Eh, I guess that depends on the person.

            Understands? God no. I’ve never understood a single person my whole life. I can’t imagine what would be different about anybody else.

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      That sucks.

      If you want to try learning, start with some pasta. Put water on the stove, boil it, add salt and pasta, stir, drain when the box says (don’t cook it too long or it’ll suck), put whatever you want on it. You can start by just pouring a jar of sauce on top and upgrade to something tougher when you’re more comfortable with it.

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      Similar experience growing up here.

      I taught myself every single adult skill in my early 20s. I couldn’t have done it without the internet.

      I’m a great cook though. I’ll figure out how to wash clothes without ruining them next.

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        As my dad’s friend would say, “Wash with colors only? Clothes are one color: laundry-colored!”