• guyrocket@kbin.social
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    Thank you, Kit.
    Here are some questions:

    1. I don’t know if women really understand how powerful testosterone is. What was/is your experience with it?
    2. What other biological differences did you notice? Were they temporary or permanent?
    3. How do you think men and women can better understand each other?
    4. What are some things you would change about women? And about men?
    5. What did you think about strip clubs when you were a woman? Did that opinion change as a man? Why and how?
    6. What did you think about women before transitioning and how did that change after you transitioned? And also about men.

    I don’t want to wear out my welcome so I’ll stop there. No rush to answer, I’d prefer more complete answers to quick ones.

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      1. For me, testosterone primarily feels like the ability to focus and critically think - like my head was foggy before and is now clear. Everything seems to be logical, and my ability to troubleshoot complex issues is dramatically stronger when my T levels are good. Without T, everything feels extremely emotional and even minor things feel like they’re high-stakes. That’s not to say that I don’t feel emotion with T, rather the emotions are more appropriate for the situation. I do find that I care less about people in general when on T - For example, when I see a stranger with a problem I don’t feel like I have an obligation to help them whereas before I had an intristic need to help everyone around me.
      2. I had many biological changes, such as a change in body fat and muscle, significant facial/body hair, hair thinning - which is a miserable conversion in and of itself, period loss, and changes in my genitals that I would prefer not to discuss. All of these were euphoric to me, meaning they made me feel good and more like myself.
      3. I think that the best way for a man to understand a woman and vice-versa is to roleplay online as the opposite gender. For example, you may have noticed that people are more willing to help and harass you as a female character. Male characters mostly get ignored.
      4. I thought on this one for a while and couldn’t come up with a strong response that doesn’t just parrot the talking points of this community.
      5. I felt indifferent and uninterested in strip clubs before transitioning. I still feel the same way. They just seem like a bad time to me.
      6. Before transitioning I didn’t understand gender dynamics at all. I thought it was a level playing field and had no grasp on the many courtesies and dangers that women face that men do not, and vice-versa. It’s often frustrating to see people rag on men’s or women’s behavior/privilege/issues, because people rarely hit the mark on reality.

      I did also want to mention that one thing blew my mind - The way that the dynamics of a room change when it’s all men, versus when there’s a single woman in the room. With all men, it seems like guys relax and suddenly don’t feel the need to walk on eggshells. Social courtesies become significantly less important and men tend to communicate more directly. Next time you’re in a room of all men and a woman walks in, keep an eye out for the subtle differences in how men behave.

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          If you yearn for a male only space, check out the Freemasons. There’s something there for everyone, and it’s a great way to make friends later in life.

      • new_acct_who_dis@lemmy.world
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        1 year ago

        I wish there was a safe way for women to take T. I wanna experience clarity of mind and less emotion. I’m also assuming it increases being horny?

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          To be clear, clarity of mind is my own personal experience and it’s unclear if T affected me that way because that’s what it’s like for everyone or if it can be attributed to dysphoria. In other words, it’s possible that I didn’t feel right in my body so I couldn’t focus on the things around me.

          Bear in mind that Estrogen levels drop during menopause so you’ll find out one day. :)

          My horniness was not impacted by T.

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      I’m crossing my fingers that you’ll get a reply, and not as a PM. I’m bursting with curiosity but such things are so very difficult to even have opportunity to be enlightened.

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        I replied above just now. I got stuck on #4 and thought on it for the night.