• papalonian@lemmy.world
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    3 months ago

    I wore comfortable shoes I can run in to all first dates after that.

    This absolutely breaks my heart to read. Like I as a man will probably never relate to this struggle or be able to understand it on a personal level but probably all of my woman friends would read this and either think, “hey, that’s good advice” or “yup I already do that as well as XYZ to stay safe”

    Like fuck. How is it that I put exactly zero effort into not being a creepy rapey predator, and I’m not chasing women to their cars, yet at the same time every woman that I know has a story at least somewhat similar? Why does it feel almost inherently true that there will always be a subset of shitty guys that view women as their prey/right/property/conquest?

    What a shit world we’re living in.

    I’m sorry for rambling and I’m sorry that this is something you have to live with.