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    3 months ago

    I haven’t really seen that honestly, it’s pretty much a non-event. I have a kid, some of my circle don’t plan on it. No one really cares.

    I’ve seen childfree people on the internet complaining about people with kids plenty enough, but I always assumed they were a vocal minority.

    The only time I’ve ever seen this topic as an actual point of contention in real life is people who insist on no kids at weddings. Which I do think is kind of a dick move, but also people’s preogerative.

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      I’ve seen kids at weddings. Hell, I’ve been a kid at weddings. It was generally a bad experience for everyone.

      Bored. Hungry. Thirsty. Where’s the toilet? I wanna play over there. Not allowed to touch this and that. Don’t run around. Don’t yell. Stop doing rude things. Don’t cry. Barf. Sleepy. Who gave them alcohol? I wanna go home! Stop crying. Etc and so on.

      Kids and weddings rarely mix well, often making it a burdensome experience for everyone, mostly for the kids.

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        This is also why I hate weddings as an adult. They’re boring. Maybe I’d feel differently if it was my own wedding or if I was really emotionally invested in the couple or something.

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          Weddings are different if you’re a close friend of the betrothed. Then it’s a party with all your friends and a bunch of people you tangentially know.

          Being a distant friend or cousin at those events sucks.

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      3 months ago

      Or maybe the wedding they want to make wouldn’t be appropriate for kids?

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        A lot of times this is it. Adults want to get shitfaced, play songs with cuss words, and have fun.

        You can’t do that with your kids in tow and with other people’s kids around.