• Nachorella@lemmy.sdf.org
    32·
    4 months ago

    The comments on this are weird. Dude had a crush and talked to her. She must have invited him to things and now they’re married. Everyone talking like he wore her down or wouldn’t have stopped if she was disinterested.

    Dudes do be creepy, though, but let’s just leave this story be, ok.

    • EldritchFeminityEnglish
      12·
      4 months ago

      It’s easy to misread as stalker/abuser behavior, as it’s worded simply and without context, and something like 40% of women will have to deal with a stalker at some point in their life.

      There’s a big difference between “I had a crush on her, she invited me to a thing and her friends liked me and now we’re married” and “I wrote down the times this girl got out of work and when she went to the gym so that I could follow her and hit on her there, and then I infiltrated her group of friends with the intent of getting closer to her” but it’s easy to accidentally make the first sound like the second unintentionally - especially when people are primed to watch out for the second.

  • Infynis@midwest.socialEnglish
    28·
    4 months ago

    The night I met my fiancee, we were both working in the same building. It was just a chance meeting, we made smalltalk for a bit, and then went back to work. About 10 minutes after she took the elevator to the next floor, I went to the other end of the building, and took the other elevator up a floor, hoping to “casually” catch her to chat some more. When the doors opened, she was right there. That’ll be five years ago in two weeks

      • Infynis@midwest.socialEnglish
        9·
        4 months ago

        She actually approached me. She’d overheard me talking with another coworker about Star Trek, so she asked me about it. When I caught her after, I offered to stream a couple of TNG episodes and watch them with her, and I gave her my phone number. We got really lucky with compatibility right off the bat. In that same conversation, we found out we have the same favorite video game