• Squirrel@thelemmy.club
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    4 months ago

    My understanding is that doctors often don’t just question but often refuse if they think the person should not do it. To be clear, that refusal is generally based on personal opinion, not for medical reasons.

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      4 months ago

      My wife’s gynecologist has asked her if she wanted to get her tubes tied during all three of our pregnancies. It didn’t offend us, we have the kids we want now and she said yes this last time.

      I appreciated him asking. It wouldn’t surprise me if he’s on that list.

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          4 months ago

          Yeah it definitely is. I’m older than her though and we discussed it. I could end up kicking the bucket or our relationship might fail and she wants to plan ahead for the unknown.

          We’ve got a few more weeks to talk about it, but ultimately I might end up getting a vasectomy too just to have it over with. I have plenty of kids.

          I have two adopted and 5 biological, so I’m good at this point.

          Hell, I was good 3 kids ago really. Haha

          I wouldn’t trade any of them for anything in this world though.

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          4 months ago

          Generally yes vasectomy is safer. But if they’re planning to give birth via c-section for whatever reason for example, then in practical terms there’s basically no additional risk. Plus neither method is totally effective. So if you can both get fixed you have much better chances of not getting pregnant accidentally.