I am trying to make a decision. curious about your thoughts on my personal situation, and what you think in general. or your own stories if you have anything relevant…

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    It depends on where your priorities are. For me i would go for cheap\shitty place so long as it was safe enough and i wasn’t going to be robbed all the time. Save the money and then go buy a place you really like when you can afford it better.

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      so long as it was safe enough and i wasn’t going to be robbed all the time

      Want to emphasize this. You end up losing based on stolen goods or physical harm.

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        Not an issue in either of the areas I am looking at. I’m sure theft happens, but have never heard of it being a particular problem… the cheaper place isn’t in a shittier area, and is still pretty rural.

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    Renting: cheaper is almost always better.

    Purchasing: it can make sense to get the nicest place you can afford, with the expectation that your pay will increase but your mortgage won’t.

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      I would argue living below your means is always better. Getting a cheap mortgage you can add an extra $100 or $200 a month to for the first five years makes a TREMENDOUS difference in how much interest you pay over the life of the mortgage and how soon you own it. The first five years of a mortgage are so important, all your payments go to interest. I’ve turned all my 30 mortgages into 15-20 year mortgages by over payments and it’s served me extremely well.

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    Generally the cheaper place, imo. One big thing to consider is your commute though. The quality of the place itself has some impact on your overall happiness for sure, but length of commute really has a lot more than you’d expect. If the cheaper place is a lot farther away, not only will that eat up time, but you’ll spend extra money on just commuting, which will eat into the amount it actually saves you.

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    Neither of these sound like good situations to me. Do whichever makes the most sense short term, but keep looking for something better.

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      Rental market is weird here, especially at my price point. There is another rental that would be $1250/mo, same distance from work and the landlord seemed genuinely very nice. Not sure that price difference is worth a move, but peace of mind from the landlord might be.

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    Depends on how cheap. If you are likely to be killed or robbed just from leaving your apartment do not live there. If it’s just run down with a few bugs here and there then that’s doable. You can always spend your extra money making it livable.

    Living outside of your means is not worth it. It’s good until the money runs out. Then you don’t have food to eat.

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      In many cities, that would mean a 81sqft room in a unit with three roommates in the worst part of town, and having a 45 minute commute to work (each way).

      Life’s too short, is what I decided. I could live in almost comfortable conditions and not have any money, or live in miserable conditions and still not have any money.

  • ℕ𝕖𝕞𝕠@midwest.social
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    You should only even consider the latter if your employment is very secure and you’re a full-on homebody.

    Being able to save now means a nicer place later; spending less on housing means more for going out. Get the cheaper place for a little while.

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      My employment is very secure and, I’m a homebody mostly just because there is nothing nearby for me to do other than nature, and I do nature for work … and I don’t have much money to go out 🥲

  • whoreticulture@lemmy.worldOP
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    My situation:

    current place: ($1530)

    • 1:15 drive from work
    • small building, linear studio apartment shape, maybe 30x9 feet? small kitchen/bath
    • rural, 20 min drive from city, hour walk to nearest town
    • finished interior, but mice/rat problem
    • landlord kinda weirdly tracking my movements, she doesn’t want me working from home too many ways a week

    cheaper place: ($600)

    • 55 min from work -standalone MIL in a shared house, bath/kitchen in main house, 9x9 feet

    • more suburban, roads might be too dangerous to be walkable but if not, maybe 15 min walk to town

    • unfinished interior… no idea if there is a mice/rat problem but the kitchen area is separate.

    • got along well with potential housemates


    I make $3780/mo after taxes, budget now feels tight, but not sure if the extra $1000 a month would be worth a smaller/unfinished space. I feel it might be worth it because I could save/invest extra money, or use extra money to make the rental nicer.

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        It’s moving from my own place to a shared space, and I have to go outside to another building to use the kitchen or bathroom.

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          OK. Yeah. Those are sacrifices. Shorter commute and no pests? Huge upgrades though. It sounds worth it, unless you really really value your privacy.

          Commute of fifty minutes? The max for me.

          And I feel something like pests would be a great reason to spend more on housing. But in this case spend less.

          Definite market failure there are not more housing options at more price points in more locations and quality.

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            unless you really really value your privacy.

            OP’s privacy is currently being violated by the landlord keeping an eye on how many days they work from home. (wtf?)

          • whoreticulture@lemmy.worldOP
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            Heard - unfortunately no pests isn’t a guarantee, it’s more of an unknown. The floorboards are unfinished and I wouldn’t be surprised if there was something.

            Yeah the housing market here is rough. Only found this cheap place through contacts.

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              I don’t think unfinished floorboards necessarily makes rodents so much more welcome.

              I’d say go for the cheaper one. You save 50 minutes every day, you probably don’t have to deal with rats any more, you can invest $1000 per month for savings, and you get rid of your creepy landlady. Flatmates might be a blessing and they might be a curse, but a good first impression is a start.

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                I’m definitely leaning this way. Messaged the shared house to let them know my interest, it’s still up to them but I’ll see!

                And tbh I need to trust my instincts more. Got a weird vibe from the landlady from the start. So maybe it’s a good sign for the potential housemates 😅

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                  Also finding it through contracts is a good sign.

                  If it’s not 100% cozy, remember you could spend $500 per month making it cozier and you’d still be in the green.

                  Good luck!

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        3×3m (which is a bed, the space for the door to open, and maybe a wardrobe but probably not), potential rat problem in the shared kitchen.

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          I played around with the floorplan, could fit a loft twin bed and a desk underneath, a tiny couch and tv. I do think there would be room for a dresser. Not much else storage space in the room though, but perhaps in the shared house.

    • The Snark Urge@lemmy.world
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      Any extra money you can save (toward a 6 month safety buffer, and then investing for retirement) every single month while living within your means is typically the best option.

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        Investing $900 per month makes such a gigantic difference for anyone who doesn’t have an unlimited budget. That’s $10800 per year even before counting interest.

        A shared flat is no dream situation, but this sounds like a potentially life changing difference.

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      Lets say you sleep for 8 hours a night and work for 8 hours a day. You have 8 hours left. You spend 2:30 commuting. You have 5:30 left. Vs the cheaper place, you have 6:20 left. Almost 1/5th more time in your day. That alone would make me choose it.

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        Yeah, the commute is a lot. I can wfh 2 days a week, but really I need to be in person for most of my work (as a practical matter, not a requirement from my employer).

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      how the fuck is you working from home her problem ? In my euro shit country she wouldnt even dare saying something like that

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        I agree 🤷🏻‍♂️ she is concerned about me using too much of the well water. Landlords in the US have too much power.

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        I agree 🤷🏻‍♂️ she is concerned about me using too much of the well water. Landlords in the US have too much power.

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      Sharing bathroom and kitchen can be a hassle, but it’s much easier now than later (if you ever decide to start a family.)

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      Of your available options, I would definitely go with the shared housing. That’s a great deal for your area and for your income. You could actually save/invest money.

      And to the people pushing on you because you rent, oh my God what the heck? I hate housing as an investment, we bought a house but it’s so expensive to maintain and the taxes and insurance, having somewhere to live for $600 a month seems like a great deal, take it.

      I would hate the hour long commute, personally. Very sensitive to commute time. But if you are already doing it and don’t mind, that’s a separate consideration.

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    If the rent exceeds 1 week pay or the quality of life is too poor, the job isn’t worth it and find somewhere else to belong has been my experience.

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    Shitty place. Save money, see what you can live with for 5 years, and then buy a house with your new lower standards.

    Honestly, all the “luxury” apartments in my area are super fucking cheap(ly made) and charge out the ass for the word “Luxury”. Best rental experiences I’ve had are from direct owners, or mid size local companies, renting out an established building that isn’t old, but isn’t new, think 70s to early 90s in construction year.

    Buying a house is a real paradigm shift. My monthly housing went from 1500 a month to 2500 a month, but at least I’m not throwing money in a hole. Take any money you save renting, and put it towards a house, or invest it, otherwise you are falling behind.

    As I keep saying to my partner, the defining line for millennials, between the haves and the have-nots is going to be owning a home. For boomers, it was having a college degree, for Gen X, it was having investments. The best I can hope for is a few thousand ft^2 to call my own.

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      The luxury apartments are all well out of my price range, anyway … those tend to be $2k.

      Housing is way too expensive in my area for it to be a good investment. Another commenter explained below, but housing is so expensive here that it is potentially better to invest money rather than buy a house. To even be able to afford $2500 a month… that’s like $100k salary?? If I did that at my salary, I would stop being able to afford basic necessities … any emergency health/repair funds would be financially catastrophic, and it would not be worth the hit to my quality of life. Not to mention you need like 100k just for a down payment. You see my income… if I took the cheap rental and invested my savings it would still take 10 years to make that, at which point I would be 40 years old and the houses would probably cost even more. I’d have to work until I was 70 with the typical 30 year loan. You must realize that this financial advice is very entitled.

      But yes, I agree that investing the money I save through cheaper housing would be a good move.

      The millenials I know who own a home all have support from their families, anyone else I know who is even close to being able to afford a house has VA benefits. Although I and my friends are all younger millennials. The cohort encompassing people in their late twenties as well as people in their early forties means it’s kind of useless for a lot of generalizations. Younger millennials/Gen Z are increasingly unlikely to afford a home.

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        2x ~50k salaries. ~13k in down payment+closing costs, and some creative accounting.

        But yeah, no amount of sugarcoating is going to sweeten the deal.

        Younger millennials/Gen Z are increasingly unlikely to afford a home.

        This is exactly why a home is going to be the defining line of the Haves and the Have-nots.

  • ATDA@lemmy.world
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    If like now I’m work from home I’d splurge on the place. I’m going to be there forever.

    If I’m just working and then going out, then as long as it isn’t roach infested the cheap option.

    My advice for car purchases is reverse.