Hey everyone,
I [28F] need some advice on handling anxiety when job hunting.

Almost a week ago I finished school and I’m once again without work. I’ve been job hunting about 40-50% of my adult life and it has taken a huge toll on my mental health to the point where I’m barely able to apply for jobs anymore. I have gotten a few warnings over the years due to not applying to enough jobs. ( I live in Sweden btw )

I have tried taking breaks.
I have tried waiting for the anxiety to pass.
I have asked so many for advice but it’s like they all give the same default answer. If their advice where enough, I would be a pro at job hunting.

I did get an autism diagnosis a few years back and I do feel better about myself, more confident and understanding of how I work so I think this time around will be different, but it’s like the old anxiety still hangs around and I don’t know how to get rid of it.

Please if you have any advice, I’d love to hear it.

    • CoffeeTails@lemmy.worldOP
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      1 year ago

      Yeah I can imagen that is hard, combined with a reasonable price. I haven’t had a car in years and it’s actually pretty nice as it’s easy to rent one when I need a car. There are two things I do miss, the spontaneous part of owning a car, I can just go if I want to, and I miss being able to do weekly or monthly grocery shopping.

      I do like to rent as if something breaks it’s not my responsibility, but I also never had a lot of money so I can’t just buy a new stove if it breaks or so. It might be a question about money…

      ooh that makes me think of those work towns in America, companies own whole towns, so in order to live there you or the person you live with will have to work at that company.

      I love scrolling through Hemnet, so many pretty homes, and some are really unique. Love it.

        • CoffeeTails@lemmy.worldOP
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          1 year ago

          Hahaha yes, it’s really nice to get stuff to the door! Speaking of that, I need to order “litter pellets” for my cats.

          It’s good to be able to tho, nice for longer trips or if you need to go to the veterinary or stuff like that. I can imagine, I’ve driven on the outskirts of Gothenburg and a couple of times in Oslo. It’s a whole other thing than driving in smaller towns.

          White is soooo boring tho. I mean, I understand why people light bright walls, but why not go for pastels or something? Or accent walls, I like accent walls.

            • CoffeeTails@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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              1 year ago

              It’s not a lot of work, often you just scoop out the poop, similar to how you scoop a litterbox while the pee crumbles and falls to the bottom (you practically use two stacked boxes with holes in the top one), I clean my litterbox once a day and then empties the bottom part every 2-3 days. I sometimes wipe the bottom with baby wipes (great for cleaning). I have two cats.

              My cats didn’t really like it but after mixing it in with the sand for weeks I went cold turkey and just replaced the sand with pellets and that went fine, I have a pretty thick layer, around 10cm that they dig around in.

              Wow, that is really not meant to have cars. That sucks.

              woah, that does sound unsettling with everything in white, it’s worse than a hospital!
              I’ve always been a bit confused about that, having emergency stuff in white. But it’s still easy to see?
              I have a small fire extinguisher that stands in the hallway.

              Wood is nice in so many ways, it’s always unique, durable, and pretty colors. I want as much wood as possible haha

              Wow, all of those walls are so beautiful!, e-ink is really starting to be well developed with clear colors pretty much like a photo, and that could easily be used as a picture frame or accent wall and it won’t use electricity at all.

              I agree, my home is my sanctuary.
              I think it’s okay we went of topic a bit 😅

              EDIT: I forgot to check the pellets vs clay link and it seems correct. I’d say the pellets are cheaper, sure a bag of pellets costs around 100kr but I need a new one every 3 months or so.
              You would want a litterbox like this for easier cleaning and protip; but an old newspaper in the bottom.

                • CoffeeTails@lemmy.worldOPEnglish
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                  1 year ago

                  ooh I understand! Cats are weird 😂 I mean, maybe you better stick to that litterbox, or maybe you could buy another one and drill holes in it?

                  wow yeah it blends in well but it’s also fairly visible due to the completely different texture (shiny against dull) and placed well. Nice!
                  Mine is standing on the floor! 😅
                  What hahah, it’s not like it have to be in the hallway. It should be placed where it’s easy to reach. I currently have mine on the floor in the guest room. The guestroom is right next to the entrance, but still.

                  Sounds nice tho! My home is a complete mess with all shades of white/gray/black and multiple kinds of wood. It feels quite cluttered and we have a lot of stuff as well so that doesn’t help.
                  Have you seen those wrappings you can use on furniture? It’s apparently called ‘dekorplast’ or ‘möbelfolie’. Bauhaus has some. It’s pretty cool how much you can change with that!

                  I think I type a bit faster on the computer as well but I find it easier to take paper notes while listening 🤷 And also if the notes aren’t linear I prefer paper so I can draw arrows and stuff.
                  I have recently started using Obsidian and that program really helps me focus on the notes and not how it looks. I previously used Notion, wich is also great but if you go over a certain amount of GB you’ll have to pay.