How do you distinguish between romantic attraction and strong friendship? Something I struggle with and when romantic attachment is suggested to me I don’t know whether/how to say yes/no.

  • Good Girl [she/they]
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    If you figure it out, let me know. I’m a golden retriever girlfriend who falls in love way too quick with anyone and everyone.

    Joking aside, it’s the feeling of camaraderie vs desire for intimacy for me, i think.

    • @chumbalumberOP
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      7 days ago

      Me too (except for the girlfriend part, though I’m not entirely sure on that front)

      But don’t forget the terrifying fear of intimacy and letting romance ruin a good friendship

  • @Septimaeus@infosec.pub
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    47 days ago

    I think the romantic element is linked to desire for intimacy of some kind or other, and is there to some degree in every friendship, but when that becomes a “romantic attraction” usually varies and honestly is defined in hindsight more often than not.

    So, not knowing is normal. If someone is pressing you to decide, they can definitely wait.

  • zea
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    I’ve reframed it as a spectrum rather than a binary so I don’t have to think about it.

  • 🇰 🔵 🇱 🇦 🇳 🇦 🇰 ℹ️
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    IDK myself… I’m pretty sure I’m just aromantic or perhaps just another symptom of having BPD (I either hate you or love you; there’s no in-between).

    I would have sex with anyone. I can be friends with almost anyone. And I can sure as hell have both someone who has sex with me that’s a friend. What more is there? Dumb gestures instead of just communicating your feelings verbally?

    I’ve searched for an explanation of “romantic attraction” that I can actually understand and still don’t know what the hell it really means. So either I don’t experience it, or it’s just not easy to explain. Or I am the dumb. 🤷🏻‍♂️

    • AdaA
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      17 days ago

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