• ShaunaTheDead@kbin.social
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    7 months ago

    Just for some pretext here: I’m not trying to defend this woman because I know nothing about her.

    That being said and just for everyone’s information, there is a scenario in which what she said is logical and fair.

    It used to be that women were not allowed to have careers and some people still choose to practice that. So the women agree when entering into the marriage that they’ll be homemakers and the husband will earn money and take care of her. If the husband doesn’t keep up his end of the duties in that arrangement and they wind up being divorced then she now has no means to provide for herself. This is why alimony was initially created, so that women who were forced (or in the modern day chose) to be homemakers weren’t absolutely fucked in the case of divorce.

    Again, I’m not saying that’s what’s happening here, I have no idea, but I just wanted to provide some potential context because I find a lot of talk about alimony and divorce online often just dumps on women as being greedy and that’s just not fair in every situation.

    I gotta say though, it sure looks that way in this situation, especially with her talking about cheating on her husband, but again, who knows, maybe he’s not holding up his end, maybe he’s physically or emotionally abusive, we just don’t know.

    • SmoothLiquidation@lemmy.world
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      7 months ago

      It’s pretty obvious she has a career writing magazine articles complaining about her life, so she should have some sort of income, and alimony shouldn’t count. Never mind all of the infidelity that everyone else is mentioning.

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      Even if she was a stay-at-home wife, then she would get half the husband’s assets. So she shouldn’t be dirt poor

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      7 months ago

      Its sad that your perfectly logical and objective comment got downvoted. Thanks for speaking truth that people dont want to hear.

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        I cheated on my spouse

        There’s really just no way of knowing what could have happened to end their relationship. Truly one of the worlds biggest puzzles.

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        7 months ago

        We are totally ok with that truth. It just isn’t relevant here. Especially given the 4th headline “I divorced my husband because I couldn’t trust him with my money”. It seems like her financial troubles and his lack of financial troubles had nothing to do with the state of their finances during the marriage. And if alimony is involved at all, it would be a contributor to her post divorce financial problems, as it sounds like she would be the one paying if there is any.