So I’ve talked to so many people. Most people see a polyamorous relationship as a separate dating scene or small group 3-4. Though I just call em polys and specify later. For me we have came up a with a system called “Closed Poly”. Meaning everyone in the group is with everyone and if we wish to add a new member, Everyone has to agree.
Then we had to add another tier to the poly because I started adding siblings and parents of the other partners. So we had where everyone was with each. Then the blood relations was not together of course separated by polys. Though the blood relations are with everyone else but their relation. Currently 48 people.
I was with you in the first paragraph, but you lost me at “adding siblings and parents of other partners.” Do you mean treating them like in-laws, or are the siblings and parents part of the relationship?
Hahahaa yeah I add the sibling and parents because why not as long as they’re an adult I can give them just as much love!!! Also I add people based on personality. so it’s hard not to add amazing people!
Yikes… this is remarkably bordering on incest
Not at all no one with blood relations has any emotional or sexual interacts like dating. Honestly it’s more or less a real funny thing for example my Daddy and his sister I call flower. They banter back and forth often about things related to me. Like I get really attach to people but some more than others which is very usual actually. As some people we added where pack deals so that’s their main attachment. Though for me my Daddy is staying at the top mainly but I got way deeply attached to his sister flower. The bantering back and forth is so adorable. She began calling him peasant boy and stuff.
Alright think of this way. As long as they’re an adult and consent to it of course. Love whoever you want!
Theoretically sure, but if my wife started going after my sister or vice versa I’d be pissed
Yeah that’s understandable not everyone can be the same as me as everyone has different views though I don’t think people should get hate for being able to love like this. That’s why I like making awareness.
I had to add I was also with his older brother but he ended that one lol. He hates his older brother but as long as didn’t harm his sister he didn’t exactly care. Since I made this aware, he knows how I treat people and love them. So he knows I will not harm her or break her heart. So within that reason he was more than fine with it for mainly that reason.
Strong Alabama vibes in here. Also why call any of that a relationship anymore? It’s called an orgy on a schedule.
Since it’s so much more than sex and even one of the milfs. She doesn’t even have sex or at least hasn’t yet. So making it seem like it’s only about sex is one degrading and two factually incorrect. Which there is no sexual or dating relationship interact between family members so there’s no incest going on.
For the relationship where everyone is with everyone, and the introduction of a new person requires everyone to be into them (and thus each addition becomes exponentially more and more unlikely, as the group gets bigger), I refer to this as a “Pod”, where its all one unit of people together.
Whereas when its not everyone connected to everyone, and its more open ended and people come and go, I refer to that as a Polycule (from Molecule), as in a “chain” of connections.
Typically the former simply just never gets very big, because it inherently gets very strained as it grows beyond even 4-5 people at most. Humans just cant sustain that many intimate relationships at once.
Polycules can go infinite though, cause any one specific individual in the “chain” of people can simply just be with only 2 or maybe 3 themselves, but that infinite chaining can just go on and on and on, without any individual even knowing how far it even goes.
I personally am not into polycules, Ive never seen one actually sustain and long term, every single polycule Ive witnessed disintegrates and fractures over time into different groups, it can get petty, people can get hurt, I just personally try to steer clear of such stuff cuz Ive yet to actually see someone long term defy the pattern Ive seen.
And by long term I mean 10+ years.
If the polycule is purely transient and people can just float in and out and everyone involved is cool with that, thats fine, but I consider that less of a polycule at that point and more just a bunch of open relationships. To be a Polycule in my eyes it has to have longevity and be non transient, each individual “link” of the chain is people going steady. A whole buncha people just having transient relationships, friends with benefits, one night stands, etc, thats not a polycule, thats just swinging.
Which is cool and I dont hate on it, but it’s just not the same thing and I try to ensure that distinction in lexicon is consistent.
