• El Barto@lemmy.world
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    8 months ago

    And yet here you are, still arguing for our exclusion…

    Oh my god. Please stop saying this, because it’s not true.

    Do I want to exclude trans people you from a women’s sports? NO! Let’s start from there. Yes? Let’s just say that I am (or was) misinformed. And let’s say that I really want to learn (which I’ve already said several times.) Now, if I say “now, what if…” and then you’re like “Oh you’re still a bigot! Exclusionist!” then how can we have a healthy exchange of ideas? It’s not like I’m some religious fundamentalist, covid denier, or flat Earther, claiming that I’m demanding equal attention to some absurd idea. I’m telling you “hey, I want to learn” and you’re like “no, you’re not, and you won’t change!” Is that your idea of a healthy debate?

    This is an example of what I’m talking about. “I want to exclude the super vulnerable people from sports, so that the more privileged, and less vulnerable folk don’t feel uncomfortable”.

    Weak argument, sorry. That’s like saying “oh beating a trans person for being trans is worse than beating a cis woman for being a cis woman, because cis women are less vulnerable!” My position before knowing better was (and again, was), all trans women are stronger than cis women because they benefited from having inherently more muscle mass before transitioning. And you must concede in this hypothetical scenario, again, hypothetical, that that’s NOT fair to cis women.

    And you instead of saying “bro, no, wait, here’s what you need to know,” you say “BIGOT!! EXCLUSIONIST! YOU WILL NEVER LEARN!” (per your last sentence), and that’s, frankly, bullshit and I’m glad that you don’t speak for everyone, because this conversation is becoming insufferable and you don’t help with gaining support from others who are really on the fence.

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      8 months ago

      Now, if I say “now, what if…” and then you’re like “Oh you’re still a bigot! Exclusionist!”

      Leaving aside the fact I have never once call you a bigot, then yeah, I’d still call you out for this, because “what if…” is still empowering bigots who want to exclude us, based on made up scenarios.

      Rather than “what if”, default to inclusion in the here and now, and worry about the “what ifs” if they ever actually appear. And point of note, most of the “what if” scenarios will never eventuate, because the whole point of most of them is as a wedge tactic, to open the door on the topic of exclusion, rather than a genuine exploration of the nuanced topic of co-existing but distinct needs for inclusion of vulnerable groups.

      That’s like saying “oh beating a trans person for being trans is worse than beating a cis woman for being a cis woman, because cis women are less vulnerable!”

      No… It’s saying that addressing the active exclusion of trans folk from community is more relevant than the discomfort of a more privileged group of people, whose discomfort arises from misinformation and deliberately stoked fear.

      And you must concede in this hypothetical scenario, again, hypothetical, that that’s NOT fair to cis women.

      Why must I concede that? At the community sports level, inclusion is more important.

      At at the elite level? Unfairness can never be assessed by looking at one attribute in isolation. Trans women typically have larger frames, but reduced muscle mass to move it around. What does increased strength even mean in that scenario? At this level, the thing that matters is real world outcomes specifically in the sport in question to the extent that meaningful competition is impossible. And so far, there zero sports where this is actually an issue. Trans folk hold zero world records, very few national records, and on average, under perform compared to cis folk of their gender.

      And you instead of saying “bro, no, wait, here’s what you need to know,

      In my second comment to you, I said “Trans people have no track record of consistently out performing cis people in any sport at any level. Literally every example you can think of is a misrepresentation by a media more interested in controversy than fact. Those are your facts

      That’s what you need to know, and that’s what I told you.

      You skimmed right over it to continue arguing with me, because you were indignant that I’d made you feel called out

      you don’t help with gaining support from others who are really on the fence.

      And there is that conditional support.

      You are telling me that your opinion, and the opinion of others on whether we should have the same basic rights to inclusion as everyone else, is dependent on how politely I raise my points with you?

      Which is to say, my rights are contingent not on the issue at hand, but on how I present myself to you?

      That should make you question things…

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        8 months ago

        then yeah, I’d still call you out for this, because “what if…” is still empowering bigots who want to exclude us, based on made up scenarios.

        I disagree with you on this. I have no problem answering “what if” questions regarding misinformation about my own circumstances.

        “Trans people have no track record of consistently out performing cis people in any sport at any level. Literally every example you can think of is a misrepresentation by a media more interested in controversy than fact. Those are your facts”

        Cool beans. I missed that. Thanks.

        You are telling me that your opinion, and the opinion of others on whether we should have the same basic rights to inclusion as everyone else, is dependent on how politely I raise my points with you?

        No, because I would have reacted the same way if you said the same things politely. “Excuse me, my young lemming, but with the utmost respect I’m afraid to tell you that you are nothing but an exclusionist, and I hope you accept my declaration that everything points out towards your person never being capable of changing your position.” I would have preferred you to say “hey you stupid misinformed bozo, are you ready for some schooling can of whoop-ass?”

        Why must I concede that? At the community sports level, inclusion is more important.

        You don’t accept hypothetical scenarios in a discussion, and I do. We will never align. And that’s okay. I’m done with this discussion. Continue being a happy, dense mod and yes, feel free to keep thinking whatever you want to think about me. Peace and happiness to you.

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          8 months ago

          I have no problem answering “what if” questions regarding misinformation about my own circumstances.

          That’s cool for you, but you’re not trans and don’t face exclusion based on the misguided assumptions people have about you. You don’t have bigots actively generating “what if” debates to try and normalise exclusion towards you.

          To you, it’s just a sometimes thing. For me, it’s an active part of a campaign driven by people trying to remove our rights, and it’s explicitly designed to sound reasonable, and be repeated innocently by people who don’t know any better.

          This is all hypothetical to you. To me, it’s a tool used to hurt me and my community.

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            8 months ago

            Nah, not true. Your characterization of me is incorrect, and your insistence on it makes you dense and surprisingly narrow-minded. I’ll keep responding as long as you continue, but I’m done with this conversation. Have a nice life.