Taken from queering the map.

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    Yeah, I think you’re spot on, and this is something I reflect on a lot. I know there have been times when I’ve failed as an ally. It’s so important to realize we’re not infallible.

    I also consider myself fortunate I’ve had the life experiences I’ve had. Even though I live in a tiny rural state, I’m lucky enough to have known a lot of different groups of people. In fact, the first person I came out to as gay was a Muslim woman. And even though we’re a small community here, it’s been nice seeing more and more LGBTQIA+ people coming out. It’s just scary to think that can all drastically change in a moment. Last year’s Pride was the first time I felt compelled to carry pepper spray to the event. Feels like the tides are turning, and not in a good way.

    Edit: Just want to add one thing. I don’t see my role here as activism, necessarily. I’m pretty active locally, and I feel compelled to uphold and defend myself as well as my neighbors and loved ones. I’m actually fine with echo chambers online because it’s the only place I can connect with like-minded people.

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      I’m pretty critical of fake allyship because that’s what I’ve done a lot of my life, not gonna lie and now I’m making up for those bad years. I’m hoping that reading diverse voices and actually reading some theory for once is gonna help me out, and considering I’m finally beginning to accept my queerness and question my identity, I’ll certainly be more in tune with the struggle.

      I’ve also been lucky to meet a lot of people, and lucky to see more than my neck of the woods and travel. While I’ve only been to countries in the colonial core, I’m hoping to eventually be able to afford to change that.

      Last year’s Pride was the first time I felt compelled to carry pepper spray to the event

      :(

      That sounds rough. I’ve not been to any parades but I’ve nearly been to one in NYC that was happening when I was traveling, but I decided not to since i wasn’t out at that point. I will certainly be at a few this year.

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        that’s what I’ve done a lot of my life

        Same, my friend. And not only bad allyship, but years of addiction and hurting people. I’m fairly old, and it’s been a long journey. I ran in leftist circles even back in the 90s, but I’d say I was an ignorant liberal posturing, going through motions, naively thinking things would just sorta turn out okay.

        reading diverse voices and actually reading some theory

        I’m not the most widely read person, but can recommend a few books. I’ve also got some links to zines if you want some shorter readings.

        accept my queerness and question my identity

        Truly wish you the best, and I hope we in the community are able to help

        I’ve not been to any parades

        Oh, they’re great fun! Mine here isn’t that great because it’s a small town, but I’ve also been to the one in Minneapolis a few times, and it was spectacular! Just the most positive vibes, ever. Unfortunately, my husband’s ADHD has started getting overstimulated from the events, but I still go every year to show support. I lived through a time when a parade here was unimaginable, so I feel like it’s the least I can do.