“Yourself” is the totality of everything you do. You don’t get to do stuff and then decide “No, that wasn’t me, it doesn’t count”. If you do that you’re just deluding yourself
Too often though, such arguments are used by others in the attempt to define a person by one specific example in ignorance of everything else that person is.
You will always be defined by others as your relationship to them, and the actions they know you take. You will always be more complex than you’re observed to be.
I’m talking about personal interactions - online or in person - if that one specific example is the only interaction a person has with you then that’s the only information they have about you. If you don’t want to be classified as an asshole, don’t be an asshole.
“Yourself” is the totality of everything you do. You don’t get to do stuff and then decide “No, that wasn’t me, it doesn’t count”. If you do that you’re just deluding yourself
Too often though, such arguments are used by others in the attempt to define a person by one specific example in ignorance of everything else that person is.
You will always be defined by others as your relationship to them, and the actions they know you take. You will always be more complex than you’re observed to be.
You have little say in how others define you.
I’m talking about personal interactions - online or in person - if that one specific example is the only interaction a person has with you then that’s the only information they have about you. If you don’t want to be classified as an asshole, don’t be an asshole.
How do you define yourself? Do you throw out the anomalies, or weight them in, or something else …?