I feel ya. I hate going to any government place for documents because people can do shit like that and get away with it and there’s no legal protections for trans people in my state.

Those bureaucrats weld a lot of power and can make life hell if they so choose. You probably did the wise thing and bit your tongue as long as you got what you needed to get done. You likely won’t have to deal with her again for a very long time (if ever again).

On the other hand, if there are discrimination protections in your state for trans people you could file a complaint against her.