I remembered that I wanted to “do gender stuff” and slowly the repression faded and I remembered trying to come out ten years ago as a high school student, and remembered trying to come out a few more times, and realized just how many people had told me I’m trans and meant to be a girl. I had a therapist help me in 2021 or so, but I still couldn’t get myself to come out until he died. He was a liberal, even, not a conservative. He would’ve loved me regardless of my trans identity.
What cracked my egg as a teen? I read a fee articles mostly on wikipedia. I thought for a long time I was “20% female”, found the concept of femboys when the concept was in its infancy.
I really just needed to read a book or article or guide on how to come out as trans when I was a teenager and was vulnerable to what others thought of changes I wanted to make to myself.
I’m so sorry that your dad died. I’ve been there, and I know grief is tough. There’s no one right way to go about it, and it takes a long time to fully process things. It doesn’t ever go away fully but it will get easier to deal with as the years go by.
Yeah, I wish they’d teach teenagers that in school. Had most of us been given the information on what a trans person is and how to come out, it would have made life so much easier and saved a lot of trouble, but alas.
On the bright side, you did all the legwork and got to where you’re supposed to be now. That’s one of the hardest parts, to figure out what the problem is and identify it.
I wish you all the best in your transition. Remember to love and take care of yourself.
I did the exact same thing with Wikipedia when I was in my early teens (´-﹏-；)`
My dad died in 2022.
I remembered that I wanted to “do gender stuff” and slowly the repression faded and I remembered trying to come out ten years ago as a high school student, and remembered trying to come out a few more times, and realized just how many people had told me I’m trans and meant to be a girl. I had a therapist help me in 2021 or so, but I still couldn’t get myself to come out until he died. He was a liberal, even, not a conservative. He would’ve loved me regardless of my trans identity.
What cracked my egg as a teen? I read a fee articles mostly on wikipedia. I thought for a long time I was “20% female”, found the concept of femboys when the concept was in its infancy.
I really just needed to read a book or article or guide on how to come out as trans when I was a teenager and was vulnerable to what others thought of changes I wanted to make to myself.
I’m so sorry that your dad died. I’ve been there, and I know grief is tough. There’s no one right way to go about it, and it takes a long time to fully process things. It doesn’t ever go away fully but it will get easier to deal with as the years go by.
Yeah, I wish they’d teach teenagers that in school. Had most of us been given the information on what a trans person is and how to come out, it would have made life so much easier and saved a lot of trouble, but alas.
On the bright side, you did all the legwork and got to where you’re supposed to be now. That’s one of the hardest parts, to figure out what the problem is and identify it.
I wish you all the best in your transition. Remember to love and take care of yourself.
I did the exact same thing with Wikipedia when I was in my early teens (´-﹏-；)`