So to preface this is posted in literature.cafe’s meta community but this
question is primarily aimed at generally anyone in the lemmyverse who is NOT a
cisgender man no matter what instance they may be in. The purpose of this thread
is to present a stage for conversation for those willing to contribute, and
although cisgender men are not excluded I kindly ask you to be mindful of the
fact what this thread is meant for and try to avoid talking over others here. If
you are a cisgender man interested in learning and seeing how lemmy can improve
like I am: welcome. For those who are here to cause issues or talk over others
though, you will be promptly removed. I do not know the demographic data of
lemmy, but I would wager a large portion are male. And over the past few weeks I
have witnessed women on numerous occasion discuss their discomfort on here.
Reddit very much had a very “bro-y” feeling culture for many, that felt like a
barrier to entry to many women. With lemmy, there’s a potential to break this.
But the answer really is how? Lemmy has begun to develop into its own culture
already independent of Reddit quite rapidly, and it’s been awesome to see but I
am wondering if there’s a way we can push it a step further and implement ways
to make the platform more welcoming to women than Reddit previously did.
Thoughts?
Conversation ongoing over there, inviting anyone who wants to participate to please consider sharing their thoughts if they are willing to. If you wanna post in the original thread from your instance copy and paste the link into your instances search panel
As I said in the thread, if you aren’t comfortable posting feel free to DM me here or on matrix and I can post anonymously for you.
That is how forums like this function. If people disagree with you, they will downvote you and comment about it. If you simply don’t like people disagreeing with you, then maybe don’t post dissenting opinions online.
If you can’t take the heat stay out of the kitchen as it were. Be prepared to back up your opinion with evidence and if you have the conviction, fight back against the pitchfork wielding mob that downvotes / comments against you.
If you can’t do that, whats the point of saying it in the first place? What’s the point of an online forum where its a circlejerk of people agreeing with each other? And I can’t see how any of that has nothing to do with gender, either.
This is true, but I provided examples where the attitudes of the responses will be somewhat hostile, and unwilling to consider the perspective of the poster.
The examples that I pointed out did not mention gender but are, well, somewhat adjacent to a feminist perspective in regards to how women are viewed in porn. While men can be feminists, spaces that are hostile to feminists are typically also hostile to women and their points of view.
To be clear I have no solution for ordinary interactions of discussion on lemmy, I was pointing out what it would look like to be spoken over in the context of a lemmy thread. The only true way for this to be a more friendly space to women is to have more women here, a tall order for the tech-focused social media site Lemmy.
That is how forums like this function. If people disagree with you, they will downvote you and comment about it. If you simply don’t like people disagreeing with you, then maybe don’t post dissenting opinions online.
If you can’t take the heat stay out of the kitchen as it were. Be prepared to back up your opinion with evidence and if you have the conviction, fight back against the pitchfork wielding mob that downvotes / comments against you.
If you can’t do that, whats the point of saying it in the first place? What’s the point of an online forum where its a circlejerk of people agreeing with each other? And I can’t see how any of that has nothing to do with gender, either.
This is true, but I provided examples where the attitudes of the responses will be somewhat hostile, and unwilling to consider the perspective of the poster.
The examples that I pointed out did not mention gender but are, well, somewhat adjacent to a feminist perspective in regards to how women are viewed in porn. While men can be feminists, spaces that are hostile to feminists are typically also hostile to women and their points of view.
To be clear I have no solution for ordinary interactions of discussion on lemmy, I was pointing out what it would look like to be spoken over in the context of a lemmy thread. The only true way for this to be a more friendly space to women is to have more women here, a tall order for the tech-focused social media site Lemmy.