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    • AdaA
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      The internet should be free from social bias of all sorts, including sex and gender

      It’s not though.

      It wasn’t when that document was written, and it’s not now.

      Hiding our gender doesn’t stop the bias and it doesn’t stop us seeing the bias. All it does is make it less likely to target us specifically, because people are making incorrect assumptions about who we are.

      I nearly always use my name online and I don’t keep my gender a secret. On the few occasions I have been anonymous though, all it has meant is that people assume I’m a man, which again, is not the same thing as “no bias”

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        Adding to that… I was there in the 90s, I used the electron, the switch, and the baud… and the IRC.

        My nick was gender neutral, but from time to time, I heard women comment on how unfriendly the Internet was. One day, out of curiosity, I entered a somewhat popular IRC channel with a fake nick, “natalie” IIRC… and got instantly DDOSed by something like 100+ private chat windows with all sort of “openings” from the male population.

        Yeah, the 90s are not a good model to follow in this regard. On the other hand, if you haven’t got 100+ DMs yet, maybe we’re going in the right direction after all 🤞

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      what do you mean cis women exist and dont have to do heavy lifting for other non cishet male and how does that apply to making Lemmy a safer and more inclusive place for women?

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            Not sure exactly where you are coming from with that. The main post was about women specifically, is pretty normal to see responses that are “non-trans pregnant woman” specific considering that (as far as I’m aware) we don’t have the technology to impregnate trans women yet.

            And since the main post is about women, we can also assume we aren’t talking about pregnant trans men.

            I know it’s fun to point your finger and “Gotcha!” But you are going to have to give us some pretty specific examples why if you want us to believe she’s a terf.

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              we don’t have the technology willpower to impregnate trans women yet. Just keep trying.

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          Did you get this talking point from Ana Kasparian? She recently made arguments like this, but they were a lot less reasonable. “Pregnant women and people” sounds like an easy compromise to me.

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    As a woman, maybe more men should identify as women on Lemmy to make targeted misogyny both less accurate and more diluted?

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    I think women should roll with the punches online and not shy away from shitting back on people who shit on you. Of course, take commonsense precautions like not DDOSing yourself, but give em back as good as it gets.

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      On the surface, of course, this sounds completely fair, while at the same time, insisting that these women have to not be themselves and instead must do extra things just to get respect isn’t fair at all.

      You shouldn’t have to be willing to be baited into a fight to be respected.

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    I’ve seen it and call it out, or in, or whichever direction it would be since I’m a cishet guy (I can only guess the people I’m speaking to are also men). But that’s a bandaid. I’m interested to see any ideas on how to fix it at its source.