I get it - I usually end up thinking about it in those terms.
But then I remember - that’s also how I think about picking out clothes, or grooming, or most social interactions; basically, anything involving making an impression or fitting in.
It was only once I discovered the trans community that I began to believe that being seen could actually feel positive; that belonging was something I could actually experience. I developed a hypothesis - maybe the way I was trying to be seen and to belong was the problem. It was the only way I was taught. But you’re here, all of you, learning to do it your way, and finding joy in it.
I have not had the chance to test this hypothesis; I’m just trying to get by until I can. But I have come, over a long period of time, to believe it to be true.
So - maybe you’ll have a moment like this, too! Maybe, at some point in your life, you’ll discover that an entire facet of human experience that you always thought just wasn’t for you… suddenly is.
Or maybe you won’t, and that’s fine too! There are tons of other feels to feel and ways to be.
(Don’t really know how to conclude this little spiel… do bear in mind that I’m mostly working out my own feelings here, so if it doesn’t make sense to you, feel free to take it with a grain of salt)
spoopy alien welcoming party!!
I get it - I usually end up thinking about it in those terms.
But then I remember - that’s also how I think about picking out clothes, or grooming, or most social interactions; basically, anything involving making an impression or fitting in.
It was only once I discovered the trans community that I began to believe that being seen could actually feel positive; that belonging was something I could actually experience. I developed a hypothesis - maybe the way I was trying to be seen and to belong was the problem. It was the only way I was taught. But you’re here, all of you, learning to do it your way, and finding joy in it.
I have not had the chance to test this hypothesis; I’m just trying to get by until I can. But I have come, over a long period of time, to believe it to be true.
So - maybe you’ll have a moment like this, too! Maybe, at some point in your life, you’ll discover that an entire facet of human experience that you always thought just wasn’t for you… suddenly is.
Or maybe you won’t, and that’s fine too! There are tons of other feels to feel and ways to be.
(Don’t really know how to conclude this little spiel… do bear in mind that I’m mostly working out my own feelings here, so if it doesn’t make sense to you, feel free to take it with a grain of salt)