nickwitha_k (he/him)

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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • I’ve had trans reports in the past when I was a supervisor (TBF, the world was a lot different). Two things that I’d recommend:

    • Continue being a good lead and treating them with respect, using their preferred pronouns, etc. Intervene gently but firmly if there is inappropriate derogatory stuff going on in the workplace.

    • If possible, I’d get a 1:1 meeting with them and outright ask “Do you want to talk with me about how current events are impacting you and anything that I can do to ensure that you feel supported?”. If they say “no” or aren’t comfortable, ensure that they know that that’s ok and that the offer is there.

    As a disclaimer, I am neurospicy so, there may be gentler ways to approach but I have found that clearly and directly communicating that genuine support is there, if they need it want it and giving them a way to ask is generally well-received.


  • That’s similar to my experience with getting diagnosed in my early 30s (after forgetting about a childhood diagnosis with no treatment). Missing from the statement is the profound impact to self-esteem from being incapable of doing things that one should be readily capable of and being told that one needs to “apply themselves”, as well as the emotional self-harm from judging oneself by neurotypical standards.

    Also, good seeing you posting again, Stamets. Hope things are going well.



  • Narrator: They would not take responsibility for their actions nor acknowledge their complicity in furthering human suffering. In fact, they would use their experience in mental gymnastics honed in defending their patronage of Chick-fil-A, Hobby Lobby, and that local coffee shop that advertises that they specifically don’t use fair trade beans and whose owner cruises around town in a replica of the General Lee from The Dukes of Hazzard, adorned with a bumper sticker that reads:

    “The owner of this vehicle has never seen the popular TV Show ‘The Dukes of Hazzard’ or any of its cinematic adaptations and really just unironically likes the Confederate Battle Flag and the ideals of human slavery that it represents. How the hell are we going to fit this whole statement on a bumper sticker? Wait. You’re not typing that out too are you? You know what, fuck it. They paid up front and this gag is just getting too long without adding much in the way of humor to the situation. Just ship it.”







  • I’ve tried different wrist wrests over the years but I’ve found that having them floating is the most comfortable for me.

    With a more “traditional” layout like this, most wrist rests do more harm than good. Raised (in relation to the keys) palm rests like the Kinesis Advantage boards tend to be better. I’ve also got kinda fucky wrists (injury and starting PT level of fucky) so, small keyboards without finger splay can be quite painful. I ended up needing to change to a Svalboard in order to minimize pain.

    I’m thinking about building a split board but I’m still not sure what I’m going to do with that, more research is needed. For some reason I think I want to build a fully wireless corne with Choc switches but I see that the newest corne PCB is not really setup for wireless.

    Corne is a fun one. If the PCB has a Pro Micro pin layout, you can swap that with something like a NiceNano (use Mill Max sockets) for “free” wireless.



  • But that’s ok, different people like different things.

    <3 That’s very fair.

    I personally find most of the “greats” to be significantly overrated. They were incredible for their time as a departure from what preceded them but, over-produced and lacking in genuine-ness. They may have had higher levels of instrumental virtuosity but lack relatability, depth, and exploration of the human condition.

    To be fair, there’s a lot of people who don’t want any of that. Many people want escapism, heavy bass with questionable lyrics, or something weird and fun to trip balls to at a laser show. That’s fine. I don’t care for out of touch celebrity musicians; I want something “real” that evokes emotions across the spectrum and unafraid to dwelling in unpleasant places when the subject matter calls for it.




  • Foreign Skies by The Dreadnoughts

    It’s a concept album by a folk-punk/cider-punk band about WWI, released for the centennial. True to the punk roots, most of the songs deal with the dark, ugly, and gritty sides of war.

    There’s “Anna Maria”, a metal love/revenge ballad about a sailor losing his beloved brigantine to a U-boat.

    “Gavrilo” about the horrific consequences of the murder of Archduke Ferdinand.

    “Black Letters”, a rather haunting song inspired by the last correspondence that a young Canadian soldier wrote to his wife.

    “Back Home in Bristol” tells the story of a young man, afflicted by PTSD, facing court-martial for failing to obey orders due to his condition.

    “A Broken World” is a reading of English poet Amy Lowell’s “September, 1918”, which is both heart-wrenching and blossoming with hope.

    It’s not all bleak though. There’s also an original instrumental piece called “The Amiens Polka”. And am original shanty called “The Bay of Suvla”, which I feel is an upbeat prequel to The Pogues’ “And the Band Played Waltzing Matilda”.

    To top it off, they saved songs that didn’t make the cut and released a B sides album as well.

    In my opinion, this album does such a great job of striking the emotions that it makes “The Wall” and any of the other “greats” seem vapid and mediocre.