In addition to the other great suggestions here, I recommend Austen Hartke’s book “Transforming”. It’s got a fairly well formed framing of the arguments you’re looking at and more - it attempts to put them together into a coherent overall arc of the Bible’s message as it relates to gender and I think it does a fairly good job.
He also is involved with (founded?) a group called Transmission Ministry Collective that has some discussion groups and other resources online. I don’t knkw much about that but i get the impression it’s fairly active.
Anyway, you’re not alone. There are dozens of us! (trans Christians). I grew up in independent fundamentalist Baptist churches but these days I feel quite at home in our local UCC church. And I also discovered so many other Issues where I feel they are more in tune with the Bible compared to the world I grew up in.
Also for online services I highly recommend a church called Restore Austin, which streams on YouTube. If you can’t find a welcoming community it can be good to at least remind yourself they do exist.
This is all assuming a Protestant/evangelical background, sorry if that doesn’t apply - I don’t know as much about the landscapes of other traditions.
Confirms it tbh