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  • lazyneet@programming.devtoc/femboyWhat Lemmy did to me
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    4 months ago

    I’ve been in femboy mode for the past 6 months, and it has not delivered results. Unless you count some negativity from an old lady on a bus. I’ve only been using nail polish for a couple weeks, and I did get a positive comment on that. Unfortunately, I’m tall and have stress lines on my face, so it’s hard for me to feel cute, and I get into a negative feedback loop because of that.


  • so that everyone knows i’m still cis tho

    I’m still figuring out what a femboy is, and to me it seems to be just a new term for a male or enby-identifying transvestite or girly boy. In my experience as a half-slavic 31-year-old in the rural northwest, when I crossdress nobody knows my gender but everyone assumes I have a dick. I could be trans, it could be performance art, it could be laundry day. (Why the short shorts and mascara? Must be a fag.) All queers are the same to folks outside of this community, so to them your choice of gender matters less than how good you look overall.


  • I shave with specific brands of disposable twin-blade safety razor (Dorco, BIC, whatever gets you closest without cutting the skin) and shave gel. Gel seems to work a lot better than Barbasol cream.

    You can also use hair removal cream for touch-ups, though my facial hair is unfortunately a lot tougher than hair removal cream alone can handle.

    I hear that epilators (basically like an electric razor that goes a little deeper) work well, at least for body hair, though I haven’t tried one yet.

    I hear that an epigenetic medication (not HRT) reduces the thickness of non-scalp hair to the genetic level you would have without androgens, but other factors like a history of shaving and your specific ethnicity may reduce the de-hairing effect. Many cis women shave.


  • I don’t know why people are downvoting this. Thanks for reviving a dead board. In the same way that BDSM represents at least 80% of the LGBT community (see: leather pride flag), furries and the like probably represent a similar portion. (I might be a rare exception as someone who isn’t currently a furry, but I do wear cat ears sometimes.) There are furry pride flag designs with a paw in the center, which I think look better than your design. I realize the ears and tail probably represent a broader range of diversity (like the progress pride flag vs the gay pride flag) but symbol recognition is important when so few furry-adjacent pride flags are currently flown (at least in the spaces I frequent).












  • lazyneet@programming.devtoTransPride?
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    6 months ago

    I’m sorta male-nb (not especially cis but not quite trans at this point) so my experiences aren’t the same as a trans person. Much of the queer community seems to be on the softer side, but I’m hoping to find something harder at one of these events or something. There isn’t much in my area, but hopefully for a month the gays will be loud and proud enough for me to strike up conversations.