All the possible signals. Really. I’ll give you two of my own experience (or inexperience)

• Teenagers in a school trip. She tells me, do you want to come with me, I forgot my key in the room. “Sure” I say. I proceed to walk with her and wait for her to go to her room while I held the elevator.

• Me in a quite alternative bar. She “why don’t you stay longer, I can take you home after”. Me “I have early class tomorrow”.

Both were drop dead gorgeous (the first one was fairly wealthy)

Those are just two examples. My life is full of them. Apparently I’m more attractive than smart.

Of course, there have been some super direct where I clued in but it was impossible not to.

Less work? 🤣

I had a garden with wild flowers, it was planted by the previous owner. An horticulturist.

It was beautiful but required a lot of work. Way more than mowing a couple of days a week.

I still tried to keep up, though.

I’m non-binary and don’t commune with binary choices.

I can be in parallel on Reddit and Lemmy. Eventually I may feel totally comfortable in one of them to ditch the other, or maybe not. Who cares?

Plus there are two sides for users in social media, producer and consumer.

I can be on Insta as a consumer checking what my friends are up to and on pixelfed posting my pictures and sharing the links with my friends.

But we have so many “quotes” from Einstein. It would be fun to go one by one asking if he really said that.

Interestingly enough, it may be women themselves due to societal expectations.

It is legal in Canada. One day me, my partner and a friend (very feminist friend) were at the park in a nice spring sunny day. I removed my T-shirt and laid on the grass. She said something like “I think is should to”. I said " go ahead, why don’t you?" and she said something about feeling uncomfortable because no one else was doing it.

(It wasn’t shyness with us. I had already seen her naked)

See the Q and the + Yes, you belong and you don’t need to pass a test or get a membership card. This means that particular groups may accept you or not according to their own bias.

And to add. You don’t need permission from anybody to be what you feel. If sometimes you feel more masc some more agender, some more fem and some time in-between, you are by definition fluid. It doesn’t matter how far down either side of the binary spectrum you fluctuate.

The term Queer has been reclaimed to lose its negative connotation.

I’ve never been gay and growing up I didn’t even know term genderfluid. Still, I’ve always felt queer which was confusing as a child, teen. Feeling fem sometimes but not gay when culturally at the time femenine men = gay.

So, you go feel you are out of the gender binary, queer is the broad term, non-binary narrows it, and genderfluid narrows it even more.