businessfish

vegan, linux evangelist, mario 64 speedrunner, hiker, food enjoyer

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  • businessfishtoMovies@lemmy.worldThe decline of sex in films
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    1 month ago

    as an asexual person i find other people’s opinions on this interesting. the sex scenes do nothing for me and i’m usually just waiting for them to end but i understand my circumstances are not common. i can only assume that someone who is into sex gets something out of sex scenes, otherwise they wouldn’t exist.

    what i don’t understand is the demonizing of sex scenes in movies. like does everyone only watch movies with their parents/kids? i don’t like sex scenes due to my asexuality and i’m glad that there are few of them because this cultural shift benefits me specifically (who has never been in the target demographic) in a roundabout way. but i wouldn’t say they are all gross/unnecessary/graphic/etc as a blanket statement like i see people in this thread and other places online say. art doesn’t need to be for everyone.


  • i love this show, and it might be my favorite anime i’ve ever caught airing live. i can just tell that this is going to be incredible throughout. it has great production all around, the characters are really engaging, and the subject matter / setting is incredibly interesting. i just saw the third episode and i’m extremely excited for the next! this show should be at the top of everyone’s list this season.

    typically when i like something this much i’ll just start on the manga, but the craftsmanship on display in the anime is making me want to stick through it despite the wait.










  • i know exactly what you mean about romance evading definition lol. i don’t understand how allos survive when navigating the world based on vibes and “you’ll know it when you feel it / meet the right person”, it seems way to uncertain for me. i just looked through a lot of the ace/aro resources i know and couldn’t find a good definition on romance, just that aros experience a lack of it… blobhaj, glare

    unfortunately, i don’t have a better answer for you except that maybe defining romance doesn’t matter all that much? i think getting to know where you fit in the queer label soup can be comforting, but if you’re struggling with finding the words that much it might benefit you more to just say fuck it and try to find others who want to live like you do using the words you already know.

    having said that i’m currently struggling with meeting other similarly minded folk and am just banking on my current friends maintaining the our current relationship for all time, so don’t take my words as gospel. i wish you well in your endeavors.


  • businessfishOPtoPikminwhat are everyone's thoughts on pikmin 4?
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    4 months ago

    yeah my thoughts are a little different than the op a year later - still love the game but oatchi is basically a “win game” button. i also think the enemy variety is pretty lacking and i wish there were more monsters instead of big blue colored bulborb. i was also disappointed with all the cool upgrades being right at the end of the game where you have nothing to use them on.

    lots of gripes about this one, but i still really enjoyed some of the large overworld areas and i think some of the later dandori challenges are amazing. i did also appreciate how you can get an onion for each pikmin type which got rid of any dread i acquired from having to go farm purples for the doomsday apparatus in 2 because i played a few caves fast and loose. i’m still holding out hope that someone will make a mod that makes pikmin 4 more difficult (but still fun) in some way.


  • i had never heard of relationship anarchy before and i find it very interesting - i may one day bring up the idea to some of my current friends. it would be nice to not be cast to the wayside when they find romantic partners because like you said, i hate it when that happens lol. and it can be tough going solo in an amato and allo normative world.

    as for QPRs, i think that might be a little bit beyond what i want out of friendship, but to relate it to what another commenter said: i would like to be close with friends slightly more than what many would consider “just friendship”, but definitely not romantic. the more i write and think about it the more i realize i just value my close friends and hope that they stay by my side for the foreseeable future. and heck, maybe even meet some new people too.

    i really appreciate the points you brought up, they did help :)


  • that’s how i felt when i realized i was ace - like that feeling i’ve always had in the back of my head that i’m not like how people are “supposed” to be finally had a name. and that there are others like me and it is ok to be this way.

    i think i fit pretty neatly into the aroace possibly agender circle (these days at least), but i understand what you mean about society not having words for me. i think a lot of the confusion etc i’ve felt around this over the years is just that - confusing a desire for friendship with one for a partner. i’ve considered looking for a QPR but realistically i just don’t think i have the patience for it.




  • businessfishtoMemes@lemmy.mlBacon tho
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    4 months ago

    i think you need to look up how supply and demand works. i’ve exhausted my “arguing with people on the internet who clearly don’t want their minds changed” time for today, so have a good one.


  • businessfishtoMemes@lemmy.mlBacon tho
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    4 months ago

    yeah dude vegans make up a pretty small portion of the population, so of course the meat industry hasn’t been just erased like magic. societal changes like this happen at a glacial pace and the idea is that more people become vegan over time and thus demand for those products gradually falls. even if 10% of the population went vegan, demand for those products would fall by 10% and there would be that many less animals killed for it because it would not be profitable.

    to claim that it is ineffective is like claiming that eating healthy makes no difference from eating like shit after doing it for a single day and not seeing amazing results.


  • businessfishtoMemes@lemmy.mlBacon tho
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    4 months ago

    being vegan is literally about not supporting the meat industry, so i genuinely do not understand what you’re trying to say. that one person alone being vegan won’t make a difference? that not supporting the meat industry is the same as supporting the meat industry, which is demonstrably false? i don’t know of a more easy and effective way for a single person to make a difference than to stop supporting it altogether, and broad change starts with individuals deciding to make that change.