Well most non-vegans here did say they wouldn’t date a vegan or would have some problem with it, even in the case where I specifically said I had no problem with dating non-vegans… in those particular situations, it’s the non-vegans that have a problem, not the vegans. And not just in this thread either, those were the prevailing responses in other online question and answer forums that I found as well. So while some vegans definitely refuse to date non-vegans, it’s clear that isn’t always the case, and the opposite is often true as well. Neither are black and white, of course. I wish more non-vegans would be open to dating vegans who were fine with them and had no intention to try to change them, as in my case, but I understand the apprehension, and concerns about convenience, and of course it’s their choice whether to date someone or not.

I don’t think that tension is a necessary component of a vegan and nonvegan eating together, at all. I’m sorry if you had a bad experience but that’s not inherently the case, in my experience eating with nonvegans.

That’s honestly encouraging, thanks :)

I would just add that eating out with a vegan and non-vegan together doesn’t inherently have to be any more difficult than 2 vegans or 2 non-vegans. From my experience anyway, and where I live. :)

Yes, I can accept it :)

I think it’s an ethical, environmentally beneficial and healthy choice. But that doesn’t mean I think someone who doesn’t make that choice is automatically a bad person. That’s where I feel like nonvegans might be projecting that idea a little bit, to be honest.

Honey is a food lol

Hi, I just wanted to ask something (not specifically related to this thread actually). It seems like most people in this community are non-vegans rather than vegans. Would that be accurate?

Eating out is… Impossible™ :) (it’s a brand of plant-based alternatives)

In all seriousness though, I usually have options in any restaurants I go to, at least where I live. So presumably the issue of vegan options while eating out would be a non-issue in my case.

Would the sole action of me buying different products to them/non-animal derived alternatives qualify as making something my entire identity? Just trying to get a feel of what the specific issue might be.

I understand… but just in case it made any difference, there are usually alternatives I can eat in most situations, even so we’re eating the “same” foods but I just get the plant-based version. Like for example, a non-vegan can eat meat while I eat a plant-based meat. Or they can have cow’s milk latte while I have oat milk latte. I’ve done this a lot already and it usually works well…

It’s not like I would actually try to change them in any way, though. What if I never mentioned it?

To be fair, it’s a lifestyle/philosophy that extends beyond diet into other purchases as well. But if I’m not trying to make them vegan, I don’t see what the problem is? Aside from potential inconvenience of me not partaking in some of the same things as they might typically, though there are alternatives…

I think it wouldn’t be a problem for me, unless it was a problem for them… that’s what I’m wondering

Apologies for not being clear, I meant that I would hope just being vegan might subconsciously influence people to think about it, but I wouldn’t hold any expectation or pressure them. It would be more of a hope that I have but I guess it wouldn’t affect how I act or behave in any way. Is that still a deal-breaker?

I would respect my partner’s wishes and not do any of those things, but veganism is a philosophy and not limited to diet… I would be lying if I said it wasn’t… Is that in itself a problem? 🙂